[Full Episode] Do You Have a Backup Man?

0:00 Today on Girl Chat, the hilarious Tony Rock is our guest bro host.

0:05 Plus, a study says 50% of women have a plan B man.

0:09 Do you?

0:10 And is three a crowd?

0:12 How to ask your partner for a threesome?

0:15 Then the lovely and talented Roman Downey is here.

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1:01 Welcome to the real.

1:05 Now, as you can see, Tamara isn't here.

1:07 She's actually under the weather today.

1:09 Get well soon, Tam.

1:11 However, I am super excited to introduce our guest bro host for the day.

1:16 He's a stand-up comedian and actor you can currently

1:19 see starring in the CBS comedy series Living Biblically.

1:22 What was this?

1:23 Yes.

1:24 Does everyone give it UP FOR US?

1:25 TONY, YES.

1:27 YES.

1:28 HELLO.

1:28 HELLO.

1:28 HELLO.

1:29 Thanks for having me, ladies.

1:32 Y I feel like I snuck into the the hair salon.

1:34 LIKE THIS IS LIKE GUYS DON'T USUALLY COME HERE.

1:37 I just WANT TO GET ALL THE AND YOU'RE SO POLITE BACKSTAGE.

1:40 You was like, I'm just going to follow what you guys do.

1:41 I'm not going to get in your way or nothing.

1:43 You are a part of us today, man.

1:46 Well, this is your first time at the girl chat table as a co-host.

1:49 So, can you keep it real?

1:52 I keep it real ALL THE TIME.

1:54 OKAY.

1:54 OKAY.

1:54 BUT WE ABOUT TO get started.

1:55 We gonna see.

1:57 All right.

1:57 First up, a lot of people believe that in life,

1:59 it's always important to have a backup plan.

2:02 But what about having a backup man?

2:04 A recent survey done by onepole.com revealed

2:07 that half of women in marriages and relationships

2:10 have a plan B man in mind in case their current relationship does work out.

2:15 And get this, the backup man is usually someone they've

2:19 known for years and would drop everything to be with them.

2:23 What do you mean known for years?

2:25 Like your mailman?

2:27 No.

2:27 Like someone that either has like always had a crush on you,

2:30 was always like, "Oh my god, you're so beautiful.

2:32 If I ever could get the chance." Trust me, Genie, you have a bunch of them.

2:35 No, I'm telling you,

2:36 like guys that'll be like either knew

2:38 you from when you were younger, family, friends,

2:41 you know.

2:41 I want to hear what Tony had to say about this.

2:43 I thought it was going TO GO IN ORDER.

2:44 LIKE I GOT TO GO FIRST.

2:46 THEY DON'T ORDER.

2:47 LISTEN, EVERY WOMAN EVERY woman has a backup man whether they know IT OR NOT.

2:53 OH,

2:52 IT'S LIKE AT AT WORK they call him the work husband.

2:55 He's the backup man, right?

2:56 He's the guy that knows you just like your husband does.

2:58 He's very flirtatious with you.

2:59 He's respectful.

3:01 But if something happens and husband can't can't keep up his duties,

3:06 you really believe that.

3:07 He's ready to slide in like, "So you okay?

3:08 You all right?" Those you like your husband biblically?

3:13 I'm actually on board now because what you just said whether you know it or not.

3:17 So whether my intentions or not are there to hit up the backup plan,

3:21 the backup man is already sitting there waiting for the phone.

3:24 Listen, there's a guy that loves all

3:25 three of y'all in the background just waiting.

3:27 He's he's your friend.

3:28 He's Hey, how you doing every day?

3:30 And I think I think what they're talking about though is that the woman knows

3:34 that there is a guy that she always has on in the back side.

3:39 IT'S LIKE HAVING ONE ON THE SIDE.

3:40 THAT'S WHAT THEY CALL.

3:41 I have a friend that was with a young lady for years.

3:45 Is this friend you?

3:45 No.

3:45 No.

3:46 No.

3:46 Not me.

3:46 No.

3:46 No.

3:47 No.

3:47 No.

3:47 No.

3:47 Not me.

3:48 Not me.

3:48 He broke up with this girl.

3:49 They broke up and within 3 months she was married.

3:54 Right.

3:53 So that guy was there the whole time.

3:55 Right.

3:55 Right.

3:55 That was a backup.

3:56 That was her backup plan.

3:57 Look at me.

3:58 That's interesting.

3:59 I Come on, girl.

4:01 I think that every man Sorry,

4:04 that every woman I always think it's usually their ex.

4:09 Yeah.

4:09 Well, that's usually the backup man.

4:11 If there was that a yes or a no.

4:14 Oh, I just heard

4:17 I'm like, wait.

4:18 Okay, I'm going to tell you why.

4:20 I I I obviously don't have one currently in my marriage

4:22 cuz I think you shouldn't have that when you're married.

4:24 I get having when you have a boyfriend.

4:26 When you're married,

4:27 like that man should be your A B CDE E FG plan cuz you want to make that work.

4:32 L you don't want your marriage not to work.

4:35 Yes.

4:35 But I think when I had a boyfriend,

4:38 I always thought it was like the ex

4:39 that always was still trying to get back with me.

4:42 And then usually when the woman breaks up with the ex, usually she's done.

4:45 When a woman breaks up with you, she out.

4:47 That's what I'm saying.

4:48 But it's NICE TO KNOW THAT THEY STILL wanted you and that if

4:51 you wanted and usually the reason why it was my backup plan,

4:55 this is terrible people, is because it's usually the person that would

4:58 hurt that next that current guy's FEELINGS THE MOST.

5:02 GET back man.

5:03 He'll be the get back.

5:04 the one that usually he's most insecure about.

5:06 Like most men are most insecure about like your ex.

5:10 Yeah.

5:09 And then if you if that guy either dumps you, you have the backup plan.

5:13 Get back with your ex.

5:14 And then he's like, I knew y'all was in love and talking this whole time.

5:18 Yeah.

5:18 And I'll be like, yep.

5:19 I kind of agree more with Tony.

5:20 This is usually a man that you haven't had sex with.

5:23 It's usually a man that's really your friend.

5:25 Y'all could go out to dinner and stuff like that.

5:28 Yeah.

5:29 Tony, ARE YOU BACKUP PLANS?

5:30 HOW MANY WOMEN?

5:31 OH, I'M BACK UP TO NOBODY.

5:32 I'M STARTING.

5:33 I'M STARTING THAT.

5:35 You have to wait.

5:36 I'm not coming off the bench,

5:38 right?

5:39 No, I get that.

5:40 I think for men though, I think that they have a backup plan,

5:43 but they call them side chicks.

5:45 That's what I THINK.

5:46 YOU OH, YEAH.

5:47 LOOK, the audience agree.

5:48 Yes.

5:49 Okay.

5:49 Okay.

5:49 Okay.

5:49 But what kind of backup plan is that?

5:51 Like, if we have to be realistic, that never really works.

5:54 It's weird to me that the survey said I I think the guy that go

5:58 that has the relationship and has a side

6:00 chick has never been fully committed to the relationship.

6:02 That's what I was going to say.

6:04 I was just going to say that if you have a backup person,

6:07 there is no way that you can be fully invested in the person

6:11 that you're with because you're always thinking about that escape route.

6:14 You're always think you got something else behind you.

6:15 So more than 50% of women are that doesn't sound right, sisters.

6:20 We got to do better than that.

6:21 We don't owe we don't we owe ourselves the best.

6:23 So we got to give ourselves the best.

6:25 I DON'T HAVE PROBLEM.

6:26 I THINK you should protect yourself as a woman.

6:28 No, I think the reason why a lot of these women have

6:31 a plan B is because they're not being treated right in their relationship.

6:35 So, they didn't say that they weren't being treated right.

6:37 No, but she's saying I'm guessing she's saying we have to do better as women.

6:41 Yes, I agree.

6:41 We have to do better as women.

6:42 You shouldn't be doing this.

6:43 Obviously, we're having a real conversation, not a moral conversation.

6:47 I like how y'all clap at everything.

6:48 She make a point.

6:48 Yeah, that's a good one.

6:49 Oh, she right, too.

6:52 Different people.

6:53 Different ones.

6:54 Like they was like, "Not for me." But Tony, do you want some claps?

6:58 That's what it is.

6:59 I know.

6:59 I got some.

7:02 Thank you.

7:03 Thank you.

7:04 I'm sorry.

7:05 Do you get what I'm saying though?

7:07 Like a lot of the time if a woman's looking for a plan B,

7:09 it's probably because one,

7:10 she's not sure about plan A or or she's protecting herself like Lonnie said,

7:15 where like this isn't moving right or like I don't

7:18 know if he's going to ask me to marry him.

7:19 I don't know if he's cheating on me himself.

7:21 So just in case he's doing something,

7:23 I low-key want to make sure I'm good over here, too.

7:25 I always say if you're not married, multi- date.

7:27 So that's why I kind of agree with

7:29 How do you get to marriage if you're multi-dating?

7:31 No, you should multi.

7:33 Yeah, you can.

7:34 It's the strongest survive.

7:36 The one that likes LIKE YOU KNOW it's like

7:40 you know it's like it's like being on the Bachelor.

7:42 It's like 30 women and you just dating them

7:44 all and then you go this one's the best one.

7:46 29 get out of here.

7:46 I'm going to go with this one.

7:47 This is true.

7:48 And I think with multi-dating,

7:49 I don't know if you roll like this, Lonnie, but when I date,

7:52 I actually do want to let everybody know

7:54 that I'm out there and I'm just having fun.

7:56 So that you do you, too, because I don't want to get caught slipping

7:58 and I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings when

8:00 I look like I had several backup plans

8:02 and I'm making you feel like you're the one.

8:04 And I actually think, and tell me if I'm wrong, Tony,

8:06 that makes a man want to be with you even more.

8:08 I would think that that would cuz men love the chase.

8:12 You agree?

8:12 Like if you knew she's just out here just you're going to go so

8:15 hard cuz in your mind you don't know what the other dudes are doing.

8:18 So you're like yo how can I outdo all

8:20 these dudes but she never wants to multi again.

8:22 Do you think that's true?

8:23 I agree with that.

8:24 Great claps.

8:25 Hold up.

8:28 Hold for a clap.

8:28 Okay.

8:29 I I agree with that.

8:30 But it works for for women also.

8:32 Sometimes you tell a girl like I just want to date casually.

8:34 Let's just have fun.

8:35 And then they'll they'll they say they're okay with it.

8:37 They say they're okay with it.

8:39 And then once you really, you know,

8:41 start going AND PUT IT DOWN LIKE YOU SUPPOSED

8:43 TO PUT IT DOWN LIKE WHO IS THIS CHICK?

8:46 WHY DO YOU GOT TO BE WITH HER?

8:47 WHO THE

8:48 it's like you thought you YOU WAS COOL WITH IT IN the beginning.

8:51 Yeah.

8:50 How do THEY DO YOU?

8:51 HOW HOW DO THEY SAY IT?

8:52 DO IT.

8:53 FIRST OF ALL, you be running around.

8:56 But breathe.

8:57 All right.

8:57 Well, speaking of having a plan B, a lot of couples try to spice up

9:01 their sex life by bringing another person into the bedroom.

9:06 That's right.

9:06 We're about to go there.

9:07 BUT OH, NO.

9:08 NO CLAPS FOR THAT.

9:09 NO CLAPS FOR THAT.

9:10 BECAUSE THEY FEELING THEMSELVES FOR a second.

9:11 But how do you bring up that conversation with your boo?

9:14 Well, a recent article on brides.com has some suggestions.

9:19 They suggest being So, we're talking about threesomes now.

9:21 All right, people.

9:22 They suggest that you got to be open and honest about your sexual fantasies.

9:27 Maybe watching some threesome porn together to see if it turns them on.

9:31 You know, watch them low.

9:32 Hey, here I out.

9:33 Here I out.

9:34 Okay.

9:34 And lastly, having a heart-to-heart about each other's sexual boundaries.

9:39 Oh my goodness.

9:41 Tony, how would you approach this conversation?

9:45 Okay, speaking from the male perspective, yes, as a man, men in the room,

9:49 you have to this what you got to do.

9:52 You have to let the women feel like they're leading you into that.

9:56 You can't be the guy that's like suggesting it cuz

9:59 there's nothing more awkward than saying to two girls like,

10:00 "Hey, how?" And they're like, "What?" You're like,

10:02 "Well, I didn't mean it like that.

10:04 I just meant to say y'all we all cool, right?

10:06 THEY'RE LIKE THAT WHOLE TOP ROW RIGHT THERE.

10:08 LOOK AT THAT TOP ROW.

10:09 THEY ARE LIKE, "NO, I'M NOT.

10:11 Don't try me." Wait, no, no, no.

10:14 He's on to something.

10:15 Cuz guess what, ladies?

10:16 He's right.

10:17 If you were to do this because if anything,

10:19 if anything goes wrong or if you start feeling certain

10:22 way or you want to back out or you get jealous,

10:24 at the end of the day, who comes to blame?

10:26 You.

10:27 It was your idea.

10:28 It was your idea, right?

10:29 So, you have to let him let the women feel like they're leading you into it.

10:32 Yeah.

10:32 WHO CAME UP WITH THIS TOPIC?

10:33 THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO KNOW.

10:36 CUZ OBVIOUSLY OUR AUDIENCE, THE STUDIO audience is not feeling THE THREESOME.

10:41 WAIT, LIKE LITERALLY.

10:42 HELL NO.

10:43 THEY SAYING THEY NOT FEELING THE THREESOME.

10:45 THANK YOU.

10:45 THEY'RE ON TELEVISION.

10:46 Of course they're going to say that.

10:47 There's my sister right there.

10:49 She got two thumbs up.

10:50 THERE YOU GO.

10:50 THERE YOU GO.

10:51 Come on.

10:51 Let them know you down.

10:52 No.

10:53 I I hear you.

10:54 This is a very this is a very dangerous te ter territory for many

10:58 couples because most people can't handle

11:01 what's about to happen when emotions flow.

11:04 Well, first of all, in my opinion,

11:05 I think a threesome should be done if you're in a relationship, not a marriage.

11:09 I I that for me, I feel like you made vows,

11:13 y'all going to be together, y'all stuck with each other.

11:16 That's it.

11:16 That's how I feel.

11:17 Now, if you're in a relationship,

11:19 then maybe because that's when you're supposed to, you know,

11:22 experiment anyway when you're not married.

11:24 I don't Yeah.

11:26 Okay.

11:26 Anybody?

11:27 SOME PEOPLE, SOME PEOPLE MIGHT SAY TO YOU

11:29 THAT THAT COULD FEEL like a punishment to a married.

11:32 Some people could say that why is it that the guy got to have more fun

11:37 when he was single when technically the time

11:39 of your life should be with your wife?

11:41 Some could say that,

11:42 right?

11:42 But that's depends why guys say they don't want

11:44 to get married because of the ball and chain, right?

11:47 Well, I'm Listen, I'm not sharing my girl with nobody really.

11:51 Okay.

11:51 Not even another girl.

11:54 Really?

11:54 I'm selfish like that.

11:55 But if I'm single, if I'm single and I'm playing

11:57 the field and I'm messing with this girl and she's like,

12:00 "Hey, my friend kind of said you was cute, too,

12:01 and she going to put it together." Go right ahead.

12:03 What if your wife wanted that?

12:05 If my wife wanted it, what if you wanted it?

12:10 What if I Okay, this is the thing.

12:12 I think the man has to be receptive to that sort of thing.

12:15 And if your man's not into it, Would you ask?

12:18 I wouldn't ask cuz mine, you know what I mean?

12:20 LIKE IF YOUR MAN'S NOT INTO

12:22 IF YOUR MAN'S NOT into that thing, you would know that.

12:24 I think by the time you mar IF WE'RE TALKING IS NOT INTO THAT.

12:27 NO.

12:28 LIKE IF if I was to approach

12:31 I'm messing with her.

12:32 No, I know.

12:32 I know.

12:33 But like my thing was by the time you marry somebody,

12:36 don't you know these things?

12:37 Like if he's going to be down for that or if he's not going to be you know.

12:41 So let's

12:42 DON'T MARRY NOBODY THAT YOU DON'T KNOW IF they're into that or not.

12:44 Just just pretend that you're not married, right?

12:47 And you in a relationship and you need a threesome.

12:51 SO YOU WANT A THREESOME.

12:53 IF YOU'RE MARRIED, you could just force it on them.

12:55 If a man walks in a room and the situation's set up, he he might be receptive.

13:00 No, no, no, no.

13:01 I don't think I think some of them would tell you

13:03 that they not into it because they want to be like,

13:06 "Baby, I only want you.

13:07 You're the only thing I look at." And if

13:09 the opportunity was there for them, they might take it.

13:11 They might.

13:12 But I think at the end of the day, the mo and most important thing if you do get

13:15 into that is you got to set some ground rules.

13:18 You know WHAT I'M SAYING?

13:19 LIKE WHAT WOULD BE THE GROUND RULES?

13:21 WHAT WERE THE GROUND RULES?

13:21 WHAT'S THE RULES?

13:22 I think the rules I it depends on the couple.

13:24 But I think some of them have to be like is she uglier than me?

13:27 Is that it?

13:28 Right.

13:28 Yes.

13:29 Come on.

13:30 You got to set some rules.

13:31 Like it depends on your level of security.

13:33 I don't think it should be a person you know.

13:34 It should be a person that you don't know.

13:36 It should be like A STRANGER.

13:38 YOU WANT TO YOU WANT TO TOUCH YOUR FRIENDS THAT WAY?

13:43 I DON'T KNOW.

13:44 I DON'T KNOW.

13:44 SOME PEOPLE might feel more comfortable if

13:46 it's like their home girl that THEY KNOW.

13:49 WE JUST I'M JUST LETTING YOU KNOW SOME PEOPLE MIGHT FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE.

13:53 I AM IN THE HAIR SALON.

13:54 I DON'T KNOW HOW

13:56 YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING.

13:57 LIKE I DON'T I don't know how random chick number X washes up.

14:01 You know what I'm saying?

14:02 What about like on vacations?

14:04 There are people that meet people in other countries

14:07 that you know you're never going to see them again.

14:09 Yes.

14:09 Yeah.

14:09 The less English they speak, the better.

14:12 You know THAT THAT RELATIONSHIP

14:14 KNOW A LOT ABOUT IT, DON'T YOU, G?

14:15 I'M JUST I JUST NO, NO,

14:19 NO, NO, NO.

14:20 HEY, don't throw me under like that.

14:25 No.

14:25 I'm just saying obviously I think every single person has thought about this.

14:28 Whether you shut it down cold turkey or not, you've thought about it.

14:31 And even when you do, you know what your constraints are.

14:33 You know what boundaries you have to have.

14:35 And I think that it is dangerous.

14:37 I think you're asking to break up if if it happens.

14:39 WELL, IF A GIRL CAN HAPPEN IF A GIRL HAS a threesome, right?

14:43 Should she have it with a girl or a boy?

14:47 A girl.

14:47 NO.

14:48 WELL, HOLD ON.

14:49 WELL, TONY, speaking from the male perspective.

14:53 Okay.

14:53 A man and two women is a is a beautiful threesome.

14:58 Yeah.

14:57 Two men and a woman, two men and a woman is called the devil's threesome.

15:02 Really?

15:03 Yeah.

15:04 Why?

15:03 That's what we call it, the devil's threesome.

15:05 Cuz it's not cool.

15:06 I'm pretty sure the devil I'm pretty sure

15:08 the devil was involved in both types of threesomes.

15:10 I don't think God wanted anything to do with that.

15:13 But listen, I agree.

15:15 I agree.

15:16 Ding ding ding.

15:17 I agree what you said earlier.

15:18 It's like if you get to this point where you're discussing threesomes,

15:21 you should you should have all of this outfit open before you get

15:24 I just think at the end of the day, one eggplant is perfect for the party.

15:27 Move on.

15:27 Boom.

15:28 We have to take A BREAK, BUT THERE'S MORE GIRL CHAT on the way

15:31 right AFTER THIS WITH OUR GUEST bro Tony Rock.

15:33 Don't go anywhere.

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15:35 It just got real.

15:44 Welcome back to the real tam's out sick today,

15:46 but filling in is our guest bro host Tony Rock is in the house.

15:53 All right, let's get back to more girls.

15:54 Let's go.

15:54 Let's go.

15:55 Now, we've all been there.

15:56 You're scrolling through the gram and boom,

15:58 all of a sudden your pictures won't load because the Wi-Fi goes down.

16:03 Oh no, this is a scary moment, folks.

16:05 What are you supposed to do?

16:07 Well, the latest Twitter hashtag challenge,

16:09 when the Wi-Fi goes down, has all the answers.

16:12 User at hepatitis A to Z.

16:15 Nice name.

16:16 Come on, people.

16:18 Said, I have to call everyone and have them describe what they ate

16:21 and to tell them to tell me

16:23 inspiring words because you don't see pictures anymore.

16:25 So now you got to explain the food that you take pictures of.

16:28 And at Craig Flynn one said, "I get mad at my neighbor for not paying his bill."

16:35 Wow.

16:34 So when the Wi-Fi goes down, do you signal for help?

16:38 What do you do?

16:39 First of all, why is his name hepatitis A TO Z?

16:43 OKAY.

16:43 HE GOT ALL OF THEM.

16:44 HE GOT BIGGER PROBLEMS THAN THE WI-FI GOING DOWN.

16:46 HEPATITIS A to Z, dude.

16:48 But I'm not I'm not like I'm not on my phone that much.

16:51 You're not addicted to your phone?

16:52 Yeah, I'm not addict.

16:52 I come home, phone, I throw it on the couch and I forget about it.

16:55 I I live in real life.

16:56 If I don't live on really good.

16:58 That's really dope.

16:58 Really good.

16:59 Yeah.

17:01 Wi-Fi goes down.

17:01 I wouldn't even know until somebody said something.

17:03 It could be annoying, but I'm old enough to remember when I didn't have Wi-Fi.

17:08 So, I know that there's called reading and there's going out and there's going

17:12 to dinner and talking to friends and having a good time and living your life.

17:16 So, that's what I do.

17:17 Yes.

17:18 What a concept.

17:19 Yeah.

17:19 I mean, wow.

17:20 You know,

17:21 I think that when you don't have Wi-Fi, when you have it,

17:24 it's convenient to you, so you're always up on it.

17:26 You It's too It's too easily readable, available,

17:29 but when it's gone, that's when you remember.

17:31 Like, I actually missed the days on the airplanes when there was no Wi-Fi.

17:34 Because then you caught up on everything that you love to do.

17:36 You don't like that?

17:37 Why is your face scared, Adrian?

17:38 Nah, I'm not going to make it on the airplane without the Wi-Fi, though.

17:41 But I loved it.

17:42 My mom be sending me messages back and forth.

17:45 Mommy, you're going to be fine.

17:46 Jesus is with you.

17:47 Like, I need that.

17:48 She's peptalking me all the six hours back from New York to here.

17:51 So, I do need Wi-Fi on the plane, but you guys know my house has no service.

17:56 If you don't come into my house,

17:58 walk in and connect to the Wi-Fi, it's a black hole.

18:00 Like, you will not get a phone call, nothing.

18:03 So, when the Wi-Fi is out,

18:04 I just get to explain to everybody why I didn't answer your call,

18:06 why I didn't respond to you, why I'm not You use that as an excuse 100%.

18:10 Another another excuse for women to use for why they didn't call you back.

18:14 Exactly.

18:14 My Wi-Fi was out and you know, my house is a black hole.

18:17 Okay.

18:17 What?

18:18 You know what?

18:18 But what was the oldfashioned way?

18:20 Cuz on my computer, I think I I still have a landline so I can plug up.

18:24 Do you still have a landline?

18:25 And I have a old computer and I have a dial up.

18:28 I still HAVE

18:28 I LITERALLY BUT I'M an engineer.

18:30 I keep my stuff.

18:31 I have my electronics.

18:32 Yeah.

18:33 So

18:33 it's actually safer.

18:34 You should have a landline just in case anything happens.

18:36 Ain't that going to happen to me, baby?

18:40 Crazy thing is I actually don't have a landline in my house cuz

18:44 even now when you get the packages with cable and all of that.

18:47 They make everything go through Wi-Fi.

18:49 So if my Wi-Fi goes down, I have no phone.

18:51 Why am I telling everybody all my business?

18:53 I'M GOING HAVE NO PHONE.

18:55 I HAVE NOTHING.

18:56 Do you have a car?

18:57 You can walk.

18:59 Adrian ain't driving no.

19:00 Yeah, I have a landline.

19:00 I have a home phone.

19:01 I have a landline for when I order food to the house or if I call a Uber cuz,

19:05 you know, I can't put I can't put Tony Rock on the Uber.

19:07 Then they're like, "We know where you're picking up from.

19:08 We know where where he lives." You still have data and roaming.

19:11 But even my phone, like my house phone

19:14 is connected to the Wi-Fi that's connected to my

19:18 No, mine is I I have this one.

19:20 I have this phone.

19:20 Shut up.

19:22 I have this phone.

19:22 Like click click.

19:23 I have the piece you hold to your ear.

19:25 No way.

19:25 Yeah.

19:25 Yeah.

19:26 See, we we Yeah, we old school.

19:28 We not going to be down.

19:30 Y'all ain't going to be able to communicate, but we will.

19:32 Old school.

19:33 Yes.

19:33 Do what you got to do.

19:34 We got to take a break right now,

19:35 but don't go anywhere because there's so much more girl chat right after this.

19:38 You are watching the real.

19:50 Welcome back.

19:50 It's getting juicy over here.

19:52 Tam is feeling a little under the weather today,

19:53 but she'll be back with us very, very soon.

19:55 Let's get right back into some more.

20:02 You know what that SOUND MEANS?

20:03 OH MY GOD.

20:05 OUR HOTLINE

20:08 CALLER, WHAT'S YOUR NAME?

20:10 AND WHAT IS THAT CUTIEY'S NAME?

20:11 AND WHERE ARE YOU FROM?

20:13 HI, MY NAME IS JOE AND THIS IS MY SON JACKSON.

20:16 HI JACKSON.

20:18 EVERYTHING.

20:19 OH MY GOD.

20:20 WHAT is Jackson eating?

20:22 He's eating pizza.

20:23 I want some.

20:24 He's so cute.

20:26 OKAY, SO THAT MEANS YOU'RE WATCHING US.

20:27 WHERE ARE YOU CALLING US FROM AGAIN?

20:29 New York City.

20:33 NEW YORK IS FOX FIVE.

20:34 NOW I HEAR THAT YOU are in college.

20:37 So what are you studying?

20:38 Yes, I'm studying child and youth studies and my goal

20:42 is to then become a life coach and work

20:44 with children and youth who uh were exposed

20:47 to trauma and just hard times when THEY WERE YOUNGER.

20:52 THANK you so much for doing that with that.

20:55 Well, I HAVE TO ASK YOU, YOU PRETTY SMART.

20:57 Are you are you fluent in a emoji?

21:00 Yes, I am.

21:03 OKAY.

21:03 YES.

21:03 I LOVE HER.

21:04 She's got some flavor already.

21:05 We're going to put your emojes to the test.

21:07 So Adrienne has three paddles.

21:09 Okay.

21:10 Each one has a classic emoji on it.

21:12 But Aid doesn't know which emoji.

21:14 She's going to hold her paddle up.

21:15 Then you have to act out the emoji to the best of your ability.

21:19 She's going to guess which emoji it is.

21:20 And for each one you get right, you and Jackson are going HOME WITH $100.

21:24 EACH ONE FOR EACH ONE.

21:27 LOOK AT JACK.

21:28 JACK WON.

21:28 JACKSON $100.

21:30 I LOVE IT.

21:30 Here we go.

21:31 Ready?

21:31 Okay.

21:32 Hold up your first pedal.

21:35 Um, smiling really hard.

21:37 Big smile.

21:38 That's it.

21:39 Okay.

21:39 Okay.

21:41 All right.

21:41 Second paddle.

21:44 Kissy face.

21:45 Kissy face.

21:46 Blowing a kiss.

21:47 All right.

21:47 YOU GOT $200.

21:49 STAY ON IT.

21:50 LET'S SEE the third one.

21:51 Third paddle.

21:54 Oh, girl.

21:55 Mean mean face.

21:56 Angry face.

21:58 THAT'S IT.

21:59 YES.

22:00 THREE FOR THREE, GIRL.

22:01 That means you've GOT $300 IN YOUR POCKET.

22:04 YES.

22:05 I LOVE IT.

22:07 HOW OLD IS JACKSON?

22:09 UM, HE'S 20 MONTHS.

22:11 20 MONTHS.

22:12 CAN HE SAY Does he talk it?

22:14 Can he say hi?

22:14 Can he wave?

22:16 He talks nonstop.

22:17 Say hi.

22:19 Say hi.

22:20 Oh my god.

22:23 Dead.

22:24 Hi, boooo.

22:25 Jackson, I love you.

22:27 JACKSON IS THE CUTEST thing I've ever seen.

22:29 Many times I know I'm not supposed to eat with my mouth.

22:32 TALK WITH MY MOUTH.

22:34 I LOVE YOU LADIES.

22:35 YOU'RE ALL SO BEAUTIFUL.

22:36 SO INSPIRATIONAL.

22:38 THANK YOU.

22:38 THANK YOU.

22:39 Thank you.

22:42 We love you.

22:43 Thank you for playing with us, Joe.

22:44 We are going to be back with more of the real right after this.

22:47 Spy Jack.

22:57 Welcome back.

22:58 Tamar's out sick today.

22:59 Get well soon, Tam Tam.

23:01 Now, spring is around the corner and it's

23:02 about time to step out and enjoy the weather.

23:05 Invite your friends over because we're going to show

23:07 you how to throw an outdoor party on a dime.

23:10 This backyard boogie on a budget.

23:17 AND JOINING US TODAY TO MAKE sure your party is a hit is a mother,

23:20 author, AND LIFESTYLE EXPERT, MISS JAZZ MULLET.

23:24 HEY, I AM SO GLAD YOU are here, girls.

23:29 Now, you have set up this lovely backyard shindig for us today.

23:33 So, what is your first tip?

23:35 Okay, so first off, you want to get yourself a long table.

23:38 Okay, it's very communal.

23:39 It lets everyone be able to sit together, eat together, and talk.

23:42 And that's what makes dinner parties great, right?

23:44 And you can get a long table at any

23:46 party supply rental store for LIKE UNDER $10.

23:50 WOW.

23:51 AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT, you want to go to any

23:53 fabric store and just pick out the style of fabric that you love.

23:56 For here, our spring theme,

23:57 we got a floral pattern and have them just cut it the size of your table.

24:01 And you don't have to sew either.

24:03 So, you can hem this with fabric.

24:06 Yeah.

24:06 If you don't sew.

24:08 Yeah.

24:09 Oh, wow.

24:09 I love this.

24:10 Well, this table obviously looks absolutely beautiful.

24:12 So, Jazz, tell us about the place settings.

24:15 So, the place settings, that's like the funnest part to me.

24:17 Okay.

24:18 Cuz you get to go to thrift stores

24:20 or um garage sales and find these beautiful floral plates.

24:25 They do not have to match.

24:26 You can do mix and match plates.

24:28 Um you can find these at most thrift stores for like under a dollar.

24:32 Wow.

24:32 Yeah.

24:32 It's a great deal.

24:33 Beautiful.

24:34 Yeah.

24:34 You you want to go off the beaten path though with thrift shops.

24:36 That's the thing about thrifting so that you can get things

24:39 that are less picked over and so you get them for cheaper.

24:41 I love the idea that they're all completely different.

24:43 They don't have to That's awesome.

24:46 All right.

24:46 So tell us what you did for seating.

24:48 So for seating you can also again thrift shops or you can do estate sales.

24:53 You can do garage sales or what have you

24:55 and just get a bunch of mix match chairs.

24:58 Um they can be old chairs and then you're

25:00 just going to make them new with some spray paint.

25:02 You do all different colors for your spring theme.

25:04 So cute.

25:05 I even love how that one was done where it's half and half.

25:08 I love that.

25:09 Yeah, that's actually to show you well the before and after.

25:13 I actually got a before.

25:15 Okay.

25:15 Yeah.

25:15 I mean YOU COULD DO THAT LIKE it's like whatever floats your I like it.

25:21 Hey.

25:22 Okay.

25:22 Now, these are awesome tips, but what can we do for the centerpiece?

25:25 I noticed you have something gorgeous here.

25:27 So, yes, I'm glad you asked about that because since it's spring,

25:30 spring is all about renewal and abundance.

25:33 And fruit and flowers really symbolize abundance.

25:35 You want it overflowing with fruits that are in season.

25:38 So, you have berries, grapefruits, lemons, apricots, you know,

25:41 you can even put some flowers and some herbs in there if you want.

25:45 And then on top of that, you can put some

25:47 flowers onto your napkin and use it like a napkin ring.

25:51 You tie some twine around it and stick little flowers in there.

25:54 And what exactly is this in?

25:55 Cuz this is so pretty here, too.

25:57 Yes.

25:57 Thank you for asking.

25:58 So, that's a hat box.

26:00 Oh, again, a thrift shop.

26:01 So creative.

26:02 Yeah, you can use a hat box.

26:03 That's genius.

26:04 You're so beautiful.

26:05 Thank you.

26:06 I'm so These are Lonnie.

26:08 Can you wait for us to be done with our second?

26:10 You didn't say grace.

26:11 I did.

26:12 These are awesome tips, Jazz.

26:13 But now, we all know that you can't have a party without bomb food.

26:17 So, tell us about that.

26:18 That Lonnie's already started eating.

26:20 Enjoy.

26:20 Enjoy.

26:21 Yeah, of course you want to have a variety

26:23 of different food to keep your guests happy cuz that's,

26:26 you know, that's a major part of a dinner party.

26:28 Obviously, my favorite part is to have a beautiful cake.

26:32 So, I brought for you guys to try my vanilla rose

26:35 pound cake and it has um a little rose water in it.

26:38 So, it gives a hint of a floral note.

26:40 Perfect for spring celebrating.

26:43 Sorry, girl.

26:45 Try it.

26:45 Me, too.

26:45 Me, too.

26:46 Thanks, Jazz.

26:50 YEAH, WE are Oh my gosh, this is delicious.

26:52 I'm going to take a look.

26:53 I love anything that has rose in it.

26:54 So good.

26:55 We are ready TO GET THIS PARTY STARTED.

26:58 THIS is hella good.

27:00 So good.

27:01 Jazz, thank you so much for stopping by and giving

27:03 us these awesome tips and this amazing pound cake.

27:06 If you want the recipe on her vanilla rose pound cake,

27:09 head on over to the real.com.

27:10 You can also find this recipe and more in Jazz's

27:13 and her siblings new cookbook titled The Family Table.

27:17 It's coming out in April.

27:19 I can't wait to see that.

27:20 We have to take a quick break, but don't move.

27:21 We're coming right back for the real.

27:23 I'll be eating this.

27:33 Welcome back.

27:34 Tamara is out sick today, so we are sending you so much love.

27:37 Tam, feel better.

27:38 Now you know our next guest as one

27:39 of the stars in the heartfelt series Touched by an Angel.

27:42 Now she's inspiring others in her new book, Box of Butterflies.

27:46 Please welcome the wonderful Roma Downey.

28:04 How are you?

28:14 Welcome to the show.

28:15 Baby, can we talk about those boots you HAVE ON THAT ARE SO FUN?

28:18 LOOK AT YOU.

28:20 MY husband picked these out for me.

28:21 Aren't they crazy?

28:23 Love.

28:24 Great tape.

28:24 You don't always get a chance to wear your star boots

28:29 on your show.

28:29 I thought they love it.

28:31 Love it.

28:32 Well, first off, we have to say how sorry

28:34 we are when we heard about the passing of Delarice.

28:37 I know that she was like a mother to you.

28:38 We all loved her so much at the show.

28:42 Yes.

28:41 Loved her so much.

28:43 Yeah, she actually wrote the forward to your new book.

28:46 So, what do you want people to know about her?

28:48 Gosh, she was just an amazing an amazing woman.

28:53 She really was my mother.

28:54 She God brought us together.

28:56 Of that, I am certain.

28:58 And the relationship, if any of you so touched by an angel,

29:01 THE RELATIONSHIP ON touched by an angel,

29:06 the relationship that we had on the screen

29:09 together was reflected very much in our relationship offscreen.

29:13 And when she would get called to the set, um, they would have to give her like

29:17 a 15minute warning because she hugged everybody.

29:22 She came in and she hugged everybody.

29:23 It didn't matter.

29:25 I love that.

29:25 It didn't matter if you were the janitor or if you were the star, the director.

29:30 She stopped and she saw God in everybody and she

29:33 put their arms around them and she held them close.

29:35 Wow.

29:36 She's an extraordinary woman.

29:37 Extraordinary.

29:38 Thank you for that.

29:39 So sweet.

29:41 I don't know if you know that's that's all old black women.

29:44 THEY DO THAT.

29:46 Every old BLACK WOMAN.

29:47 BABY, COME HERE.

29:48 Come here, baby.

29:49 I love it.

29:49 It's so nice though.

29:50 You know, I remember when I first met

29:52 her, and I'm originally from Ireland, and you know,

29:54 I can remember my parents still teaching me to stick my hand out,

29:58 you know, to shake my hands and be polite.

30:00 And I remember when I the day I first met her, I

30:02 did that and she just took me in her arms and and gave me a giant hug.

30:08 Now, when she first met my husband,

30:11 she took him in her arms and I just thought they were hugging.

30:14 She was whispering in his ear.

30:16 She said to him, "That's my baby girl.

30:19 And if you hurt her, I will HAVE YOU KILLED.

30:23 THAT'S RIGHT.

30:24 ALL DAY, VALERIE.

30:26 All day.

30:26 I love it.

30:29 Awesome.

30:29 Now, you said you said that you

30:30 feel God's presence whenever you're near butterflies.

30:32 Was it What is it about butterflies to me?

30:34 Yeah.

30:34 When my my mom my my mom died when I was just a little girl

30:38 and my father took me up to the cemetery and I brought a bunch of pansies.

30:42 She loved pansies.

30:43 She always said they looked like little butterflies.

30:45 And when I put them on her grave, a real butterfly flew by.

30:49 And my dad said, "Would you look at that wee butterfly?

30:52 That could be the spirit of your mother

30:54 right there." And so all through my life,

30:56 butterflies have just shown up, you know, and not just in gardens.

31:01 Obviously, we live in California.

31:02 There are a lot of butterflies,

31:03 but I'm talking about maybe a tattoo on somebody's wrist or a piece of jewelry

31:08 or and they've always shown up at times when I've needed them the most,

31:12 when I've needed a little bit of encouragement.

31:14 And and I love the symbolism of the butterfly, you know,

31:18 because you could be a caterpillar one

31:20 day not knowing that just around the corner is your wings.

31:25 Just let them go.

31:26 Let them know.

31:27 Let them know.

31:29 The title of your book is box of butterflies.

31:31 I understand butterflies.

31:32 So why the box?

31:33 Well, the box almost like as if the box

31:36 is your life and the butterflies are the blessings.

31:39 And one year, my giftgiving husband, he who gave me the boots,

31:43 um he took me out for Valentine's Day out onto our garden,

31:47 and he handed me a box.

31:48 It was super light.

31:49 And you know how you want to shake a gift?

31:51 Sometimes you're like, "I wonder what this is." And he was like, "No, no, no.

31:55 Don't don't shake it." And we went out into the garden

31:57 and I took the lid off the box and out flew,

32:01 you know, maybe 20 little butterflies.

32:04 was so romantic and beautiful.

32:08 And I had been writing this book at the time

32:10 and I thought this is the perfect title,

32:14 Box of Butterflies, because I really believe

32:16 that sometimes the obstacle shows up in your life.

32:19 You don't know it's an opportunity.

32:22 And I really wanted to remind people through this book that, you know,

32:26 that we can either be the victims of our life

32:28 or we can be the victors of our life.

32:31 all day.

32:33 And so that's what Box of Butterflies is about.

32:36 With the grace of God, we can, you know,

32:39 get wings and we can fly and fly to our dreams.

32:42 Well, you know, someone else that flies is your husband, Mark Bernett.

32:46 I mean, he is the creator of so many great u Survivor, The Voice.

32:54 I mean, oh my goodness.

32:57 Are you too competitive?

32:58 My favorite.

32:59 Well, no, I'm not at all competitive, but my husband could, you know,

33:02 he could race you to the coffee

33:04 machine in the he loves everything's a competition,

33:09 but he, you know, yeah, he is very prolific.

33:12 And would you ever do a show like Survivor, though?

33:15 Oh my goodness.

33:16 We We used to go to the Survivor sets all the time.

33:19 Jeff Pro is one of our dearest friends,

33:22 and we would be down in these extraordinary islands

33:25 that I had never even heard the name of before.

33:28 And you'd look around at all the contestants

33:31 and they're just covered in bites and lumps and insects.

33:35 Insects.

33:36 I'm like, "Oh no, I'll be at the hotel."

33:41 Well, before we let you go, we celebrate something that we call Fridays.

33:44 It's the Fridays, but we say it's Fridays.

33:46 And we have a signature drink here on the show.

33:48 But we noticed that your on your on your Instagram every

33:51 Friday you post a dancing Friday gift of yourself using jib jab.

33:56 What made you decide that it's time to start this tradition?

34:00 That is a grown adult woman right there, believe it or not.

34:03 I love it.

34:04 IT'S JUST, YOU KNOW, LISTEN, life can be hard.

34:07 The week can feel long, and when Friday comes, man, you just got to dance.

34:13 I love that.

34:14 So, you're amazing.

34:16 Thank you for chatting with us today.

34:17 Her new book, Box of Butterflies, is available now wherever books are sold.

34:21 We've got to fly into a quick break, but we'll be right back.

34:23 You are watching The Real.

34:24 Thank you so much.

34:32 WELCOME BACK.

34:33 OUR GIRL TAM IS OUT sick today, but she'll be back with us soon.

34:36 Now, we interrupt our regularly scheduled program with a special

34:39 shopping report on some of the best deals sweeping the nation.

34:42 This is Steals on the Real.

34:50 As a top authority on steals and deals,

34:53 it's our duty to bring you the story first.

34:56 AND WE'VE GOT REPORTERS ACROSS THE nation satelliting in to do just that.

35:01 Team, who has the best deal?

35:04 I got it.

35:04 I KNOW.

35:04 I GOT ONE AT A TIME, PLEASE.

35:06 ADRIAN, YOU'RE LIVE.

35:07 We're coming to you first.

35:09 Thanks, Lonnie.

35:10 I've been able to put my hands on a pair of these.

35:14 Yes.

35:14 Blingy hoops.

35:15 Price so low.

35:16 It's sending America into a FRENZY AND THAT'S WHY WE CALLED IN OUR RESIDENT

35:21 PRICE DROP EXPERT Shay with morningsave.com.

35:24 She's standing by in the newsroom with an update.

35:27 Shay, what's the 411 on these earrings?

35:30 Okay, Lonnie, I am obsessed with classic hoop earrings

35:32 and it doesn't get any chaker than these stunners by Patella.

35:36 So, they come in gold, rose gold,

35:38 stainless steel, and black stainless steel plating.

35:41 So, they're really high quality.

35:42 I'm wearing them right now.

35:43 And can we talk about the bling on these?

35:45 Each pair is laced with cubic zirconia on both sides,

35:49 so they give you that extra sparkle.

35:51 Every girl needs a great set of hoops like this.

35:53 Whether you're heading for a night out or dress super casual in jeans,

35:57 these are the perfect accessory to complete your look.

35:59 And as a bonus, hoops never go out of style, right?

36:03 So, these run as high as $90, right?

36:06 But our deal, 76% off at just 22 bucks.

36:10 Pretty good.

36:11 Thank you, Adrian and Shay for that special report.

36:14 And as a note to our viewers,

36:15 you should get yours while they're still on the shelves.

36:18 Now, moving on to Jeanie to see what she's dug up.

36:21 Genie.

36:22 Oh, yes.

36:22 Hi, Lonnie.

36:23 This just in.

36:24 Oh, Emerald Legosi, the BAM man himself,

36:27 has put out a knife that has everybody's needs.

36:31 Well, that looks very sharp, Genie.

36:35 But with so many knives on the market to choose

36:37 from, let's bring in Shay to give us the details.

36:39 Shay?

36:40 Okay, so my hubby and I have been on the hunt for new knives for our kitchen.

36:44 And when I discovered this set by Emerald,

36:46 I knew I had to bring them to you ladies.

36:48 So, let's talk about these knives.

36:50 They're colorcoded, so they're super easy to identify.

36:53 They're nonstick, have a nice soft grip, and as you can see,

36:56 they basically get you every single knife that you need for cooking.

37:00 But it gets better.

37:01 This is not only a six- piece knife set.

37:03 It also comes with four non-stick bendable cutting mats.

37:07 One for poultry, fish, meat, and veggies.

37:10 But I'll cut to the chase.

37:11 This set is priced as high as $90,

37:14 but our deal is just 29 BUCKS, WHICH IS 68% OFF.

37:19 YEAH.

37:19 THANKS, LADIES, for that in-depth report.

37:21 And now we shift directions to the expose

37:23 on new technology in the beauty industry.

37:25 Tony, yes, Lonnie.

37:27 I know some ladies struggle with putting on lashes,

37:30 but here's something to make things easier.

37:32 Boom.

37:33 Magnetic lashes.

37:35 Wow.

37:37 Shay is back with the exclusive.

37:38 Shane, thank you so much, Tony.

37:40 And ladies, I wear our Dell Wispy lashes almost every single day.

37:43 I'm wearing them right now,

37:44 and I have for years, but magnetic lashes are revolutionary.

37:49 It's time to try for yourself what everyone has been talking about.

37:53 Forget having to deal with sticky glue that can damage your natural lashes.

37:57 These beauties are so easy to not only apply, but to remove as well.

38:01 Simply place one lash on top of your own lashes and one underneath.

38:04 They magnetically connect and you have stunning lashes all day long.

38:08 Yes.

38:09 So, this two pack of lashes is priced as high as $40,

38:12 but our deal 24 bucks, which is 40% off.

38:16 Yeah.

38:17 Wow.

38:17 Thanks, Shay.

38:18 WE CAN'T BEAT THESE DEALS.

38:20 Wait a minute.

38:20 Wait a minute.

38:21 Wait, wait.

38:21 The national conversation is so heavy around this item.

38:25 I couldn't wait until the next broadcast.

38:27 I had to bring it to you directly.

38:30 Adrien, you already have the next item.

38:32 All right.

38:33 You're such an awesome journalist.

38:35 Thanks, Lonnie.

38:35 Okay, here's the scoop.

38:36 What's a party without music?

38:38 And this Bluetooth speaker is chic and powerful.

38:41 Shay, come on back and do your thing.

38:43 All right, girl.

38:44 Now, I have seen so many Bluetooth speakers, but never any as chic as this.

38:49 These are by Brave LUX, AND THEY NOT ONLY LOOK SO PRETTY,

38:52 but they are built to last.

38:53 So, this compact speaker is water resistant,

38:56 has a built-in power bank, so you can actually charge your phone,

38:59 and it gives you over 12 hours of wireless play time on one single charge.

39:04 Oh, and did I mention incredible sound quality?

39:07 So, you can throw this puppy in your purse

39:09 and bring the party with you wherever you go.

39:11 So, this is priced as high as $100, but our deal 29 bucks, which is 71% off.

39:18 YEAH, THAT'S WHAT I CALL GOOD REPORTING.

39:21 IF YOU'RE interested in any of these items and want more in-depth reporting,

39:25 head over to thereal.com for more information.

39:27 For everyone here, I'm Lonnie Love signing off from this special report,

39:31 this special shopping report.

39:33 Just leave it in there.

39:34 We're going to take a break, BUT DON'T MOVE.

39:36 WE'RE COMING RIGHT BACK WITH MORE OF THE REAL.

39:48 Welcome back.

39:49 Okay, Tony, did you have a blast co-hosting?

39:51 I had a blast.

39:52 I have increased MY FEMALE FAN BASE.

39:56 YES, I HAD A good time.

39:56 Next time I'm in the hair salon, I'm going be like, "Girl,

39:58 you better get you A BOX OF BUTTERFLIES AND TALK ABOUT some

40:01 and have some some OF THAT ROSE POUND CAKE AND ALL THAT." BRING THAT.

40:07 I LOVE IT.

40:08 We loved having you.

40:09 Thanks again to Roma Downey for joining us as well.

40:12 Love her.

40:13 And a huge thanks to you guys at home and our studio audience.

40:16 You guys really know how to party.

40:17 ENJOY TODAY, FOLKS, and we'll see you right BACK HERE NEXT TIME ON THE DON'T