Kelsey Reveals New Details On Her 10-Year-Old Relationship | RHORI After Show (S1 E6) Pt 1 | Bravo

0:00 Dolls are like epic.

0:01 There's some sort of magic that they're giving back to us.

0:04 imagination.

0:04 That's why they're like da da da da da da da da da.

0:06 Coming up on The Real Housewives of Rhode Island after show.

0:09 My father left us homeless.

0:11 You would never Homeless.

0:15 I said it.

0:15 I felt embarrassed about something that like it was

0:18 like very hard for me to even open up about.

0:20 There was a standstill with [music] my ex.

0:22 It lasted 10 years, so.

0:23 He'd be like, "Oh, I'm going away." And then

0:25 I'd find out there was also somebody else.

0:28 Isn't that kind of him cheating?

0:30 He's so He's hurt things.

0:33 Why don't I have that?

0:34 It's definitely an unusual arrangement.

0:38 [snorts]

0:37 I put my youth [music] into like my 20s.

0:39 I put my perkiest boobs into this relationship.

0:42 Everybody take that down cuz they're going to sit next to us, okay?

0:45 If she had trauma with those dolls, I don't want them in my house.

0:47 They really have a vibe.

0:49 And they all look at us and they all talk sh- You know that, right?

0:54 The Real Housewives of Rhode Island after show starts right now.

1:00 We're staying in a castle.

1:02 And I'm like, "How awesome would that be to have a tea party with these dolls?"

1:05 Not to play with.

1:06 There's like a vibe that each porcelain doll like has

1:09 their own friend that can like be our vibe friends.

1:12 Because they really have a vibe.

1:14 No, really, they do.

1:15 That's why people like for years dolls are like epic.

1:18 Okay, so let me introduce you to the

1:20 Everybody take that down cuz they're going to sit next to us, okay?

1:22 They go right here.

1:23 Look, so easy.

1:25 You good?

1:26 Feeling a little hot?

1:27 We got to cool you down, girlfriend.

1:29 Oh, yeah, the dolls were cute.

1:30 They're creepy.

1:31 They weren't like really Alicia's style dolls, like Paris Hilton looking dolls.

1:36 foo.

1:36 I was like, "Where did these come from?" I

1:37 think I asked her, like, "Are these yours?

1:39 Like you still have these after all these years?" It's not

1:42 even the ones I'd ever played with when I was young.

1:44 Give me a sexy cute Bratz doll that I was desperate to look like,

1:47 not like this porcelain doll that's historically in some attic.

1:52 They smelled.

1:53 They like they were old and They were scary.

1:56 But they were porcelain, like the castle.

1:58 Like I couldn't bring a rainbow doll.

2:00 The castle was just as creepy as the dolls.

2:02 Right, but like it went with it.

2:04 It did.

2:04 Spooky.

2:05 I left the doll at the castle.

2:06 I would have I was never taking that thing home with me.

2:08 And if she had trauma with those dolls, I don't want them in my house.

2:12 Because I don't want the trauma to continue on into my home.

2:15 That's a good point.

2:16 By looking at a doll,

2:17 it's kind of crazy that you're like, "Oh, that's Jo Allen's.

2:19 Oh, that's Alicia's.

2:20 Like off, that's definitely Liz's." I gave

2:23 you the prettiest one, so you're welcome.

2:25 Thank you.

2:25 I was just mad that she gave me the ugliest looking doll out of the bunch.

2:29 It was like a disheveled one.

2:31 With the hat was falling off.

2:32 There's no clothes on.

2:34 but to be fair, that was the baby doll.

2:38 Was that her like Well, kind of.

2:40 She was the useful doll.

2:44 eyes.

2:46 [laughter] Liz's was like this epic queen but pissed.

2:48 Yeah, her face looked mad.

2:50 mad but like cute still like, you know, like royal.

2:53 I'm like I'm not mad at that, but what's the significance?

2:58 It's just furthering the tradition that Elizabeth is always upset.

3:03 Which isn't far from the truth.

3:05 Remember you get Ash like the skier.

3:07 Well, because she fit the muscle.

3:08 Like it was like she's like a boy mom,

3:10 you know, like she's like more athletic, sporty.

3:13 She's not as fancy as us.

3:15 Rosie was punished because she up my eyelashes.

3:19 I was like, "Can you do my eyelashes for me?" Everyone get ready.

3:22 Okay, Kelsie.

3:23 And then will you do my eyelashes?

3:24 And then she did it all cockeyed.

3:26 She's like, "Oh, it looks great." And then Kelsie had to fix them.

3:29 And I was like, "Are you kidding?

3:31 Why would you like So, anyways,

3:32 so Rosie was punished but actually fit her vibe because it has like all

3:35 these like sunflowers on it that's like boom boom but you know what I mean?

3:40 Attention.

3:39 Right?

3:39 I just was curious.

3:40 What were we supposed to do from that point forward?

3:42 I was confused.

3:43 Like were we supposed to like Think with Alicia's.

3:46 Like it's like a kid that gives you a fake cell phone,

3:48 like you're going to answer it.

3:49 Yeah.

3:49 So like anything Alicia wants to do, I'm going to do it.

3:51 Hi, dolly.

3:52 Let me fix your hair.

3:54 You're a dolly.

3:55 You're doing good.

3:56 Stay the course.

3:57 It's okay.

3:58 Just let them be your friend.

4:00 Like it's like a champagne glass, you know?

4:02 It's like a decoration that you're like, "This is my vibe."

4:04 chair for them that they could sit right next to Yeah, cuz it's like a vibe.

4:08 It's like an accessory.

4:09 It's like a purse.

4:10 And they all look at us and they all talk sh- You know that, right?

4:14 Listen, when they they all talk sh- Listen,

4:16 if you look at a doll and you have a conversation,

4:18 you know that I don't typically have conversations with my dolls,

4:21 but when you do, what happens?

4:22 have to make-believe play with your daughter?

4:25 Yeah.

4:24 That's why girls can make-believe our boys,

4:26 they can make-believe with their dolls because there's some

4:28 sort of magic that they're giving back to us.

4:31 why they're like da da da da da da da da da da

4:32 da da da da da da da because there's some sort of vibe.

4:34 I'm telling you.

4:35 Do you think that when you turn off the lights like

4:37 when you leave the house that the dolls talk to each other?

4:39 No.

4:40 No, you don't think I don't believe that.

4:41 I feel like it's just I think that's actually more believable.

4:44 Like they look at you.

4:45 When you have a conversation,

4:46 when you're trying to imaginary play, they turn up.

4:49 I'm telling you, watch when you I'm telling you.

4:51 No, I don't

4:51 That's why that's why there's something about them.

4:54 Gary was playing Ken yesterday and Julie was playing Barbie.

4:56 It was so sweet.

4:57 And then you she has us But isn't it crazy that your daughter can

5:00 have this whole story from just having a little doll in this whole life?

5:04 And she can make up a make-believe life that's so beautiful.

5:06 And you're like, "How did you just write a story from just playing

5:09 with this one doll?" Like how did an essay come out, you know?

5:11 There's some sort of magic behind them.

5:13 I believe.

5:14 I don't know.

5:15 I chat GPT my bed bedtime stories with her.

5:18 I see.

5:18 Like it's just it's a depression thing.

5:21 And I'll like have Julie's doll and I'll be like,

5:23 "Julie the princess." And she'll ask me Yeah.

5:26 Yeah, but it's not in my head.

5:27 I just make chat GPT do it.

5:28 It's something but chat GPT she has a magical touch.

5:31 I agree.

5:32 It's been hit with that ding ding.

5:38 A lot of times when you accept certain things, you like train I for me,

5:42 I trained my brain so hard to just

5:44 accept what it was so that I wasn't disappointed.

5:48 There's like nothing more [music] that I want to get out of this relationship

5:52 or that's going to like change and be different than like what it is now.

5:56 Mhm.

5:56 I was always like in constant like fear and anxiety

6:00 of like what I was going to find out next.

6:01 Not a good feeling at all.

6:04 It really sucks.

6:05 So you didn't know when you first started dating him that there were others.

6:09 I knew that he that was his reputation and I

6:12 was not the only one at the very beginning.

6:15 Like I would hear things.

6:16 I never asked but he never told but he never was talk It wasn't like, "Oh,

6:21 he's on the phone with some girl in front of me." Like no,

6:23 he still hid everything.

6:25 Hid?

6:27 Yeah.

6:27 He'd be like, "Oh, I'm going away." And then I'd

6:30 find out there was also somebody else joining the trip.

6:34 The first time that he told me he was going on a trip which he does every year.

6:38 He's like, "I'm not going to have my phone." He was going on a cruise.

6:41 At the time it's like the Wi-Fi,

6:43 the phone like I wasn't going to have my phone much.

6:45 I said, "Okay." But he still made it a point to call me

6:48 maybe once a day or like twice enough for me to not question it.

6:52 And then I did see stuff online from Facebook.

6:56 That was the first time I found out.

6:58 I remember we were in bed and I started crying and I said,

7:03 "I see all of this stuff like so-and-so said this like I see it online.

7:08 Like what's going on?" And he shut me right down.

7:12 You're a babe though.

7:13 like, "You're only a babe." You're a doll.

7:16 down to the point where like don't ask questions kind of thing.

7:18 That's not as much him having a poly relation.

7:22 That's Isn't that kind of him cheating?

7:26 Yeah, I mean it it You can

7:28 look at it from eight different perspectives, honestly.

7:31 Is it cheating?

7:32 Is it No, yeah.

7:34 He wasn't it ev- Yeah.

7:36 So you never had the conversation where he was like, "Look, this is my life.

7:41 You're either on board or not." No.

7:44 I was not okay with that.

7:45 I loved him but I did not That's not something I signed up for.

7:48 It would just happen to form into that and it took a life of its own.

7:55 I would never and this is not any like shade

8:01 to you but I would never want to have to wonder.

8:05 I would have to take myself out of the equation if it were too heavy.

8:13 And like, you know, what do they say?

8:14 Like the only worthwhile love in life is a love

8:19 in which you feel free and the other person feels free.

8:24 I accepted for what it was and tried to keep my emotions out of it.

8:27 And it was hard sometimes.

8:28 I'm like, "Why won't this man like just pick me?" And then eventually it's

8:33 just like you literally have to just tell yourself like it is what it is.

8:39 And at that point, nothing surprised me.

8:41 But at the beginning I and I wasn't living with him at this point.

8:46 And again, it was like I was staying in my at like staying in my lane.

8:50 As a 20-something-year-old girl, 21,

8:53 I'm going to tell this 43-year-old what to do?

8:55 Like no, I was afraid to ask the questions but it was like yeah,

8:59 as bad as that was there were so

9:01 many other great things that we were doing together, that he was doing for me.

9:06 Every waking minute we spent together when he was in Rhode Island.

9:10 Every trip we went on, it's just like he couldn't take me enough places.

9:14 So like he wanted to travel with me.

9:16 He didn't want to travel with anybody else.

9:18 I was always the one traveling with him.

9:20 So like I just eventually when you take your emotions out of it and that's

9:25 why I said the relationship lacked the emotional

9:28 aspect because I was forced to not care.

9:32 And to me you can only grow so

9:36 much without the emotional side of it which lacked.

9:40 I think she was maybe just done with having that type

9:43 of relationship and wanted something a little bit more serious and promising.

9:48 think that was because she wants to have kids one day.

9:50 She's not going to Well, this guy didn't want to have kids.

9:53 I want to have kids.

9:54 I want to be married.

9:55 And I feel like, you know, I'll never get that where I'm at.

9:58 At that point it's just a waste of time.

10:00 You know, I could see that cuz she does love

10:02 her sister's kids and I know her sister and her brother-in-law.

10:05 kids, yeah.

10:06 And she's with them often enough.

10:07 So, I could see that she'd want her own and if it's, you know,

10:10 wasn't going to happen with the ex, then you know, she needs to find her way.