Reacting To Old People’s Life Advice

0:00 Welcome back, ladies and gentlemen.

0:01 Today, we have an awesome idea.

0:03 Greg, great job on this one, buddy.

0:07 [laughter]

0:07 But today, we're going to be reading old people's most honest life advice.

0:10 And I do want to say before we start that this is a rabbit hole

0:13 that I do fall down to uh do fall down in uh on Tik Tok a bunch,

0:18 and it's just old people talking about like all their regrets

0:21 and things like that, and it makes me cry, and I enjoy that.

0:23 So, let's get into that.

0:24 Let's go.

0:25 This is an 89-year-old woman from Australia,

0:27 and she says, "Buy that concert ticket.

0:29 I promise you won't remember the money,

0:31 but you'll remember the night." This is such good advice,

0:33 and it is something that does resonate with me because I

0:35 do have I'm actually currently going through something like that where

0:40 you want to balance saving and investing and things like

0:45 that, but you also can't lose sight of why you're working so hard.

0:49 Like you're working so hard not to have money.

0:51 Not like if you are working hard to have money, but it's not the end goal.

0:54 Like I'm working hard to have money to have financial security,

0:57 and then you keep going, and then you eventually get to so I can enjoy myself.

1:00 So, along the way, it is okay to enjoy yourself.

1:02 Your life doesn't have to be hell until you retire,

1:04 and then you can start enjoying your life because

1:06 when you're younger and able-bodied and you have more energy,

1:09 now's the time to kind of get those things out of the way.

1:11 So, traveling or going to the concert and things

1:14 like that I'm I'm always reminded of hearing, you know,

1:17 older people like this say things like

1:20 that of like I wish I did more or whatever,

1:22 and I desperately don't want to become one of those people.

1:24 So, I think that's great advice, and it kind of covers this umbrella idea

1:28 of don't lose sight of why you're working so hard.

1:30 You're working so hard to have financial security,

1:33 so of course you could set up your life and, you know,

1:35 your children's lives and maybe have a home

1:37 or you're renting an apartment and have those things,

1:39 but you do deserve to have fun along the way.

1:42 So, sometimes, you just got to[ __] it.

1:45 That one hurt, but I'll have a great night.

1:47 It's worth it.

1:47 This is a 92-year-old man from Germany.

1:50 My advice for young couples is that sex gets better when you stop

1:53 trying to perform and just start trying to connect with the other person.

1:57 Wow, that is that is great advice.

1:59 Greg just cuz Europeans are so horny.

2:03 I'm imagining someone like on Tik Tok walking

2:05 up to a 92-year-old guy and being like,

2:08 "Can you tell Can you give me some life advice?" And he

2:10 just starts talking about[ __] Like you're expecting him to be like,

2:14 "Oh, you know, you got to live it up" or whatever,

2:15 and he's like, "Yo, stop trying to jackhammer chicks.

2:20 Really think about their needs and be gentle with it,

2:24 and like mix it up a little bit.

2:26 And if they like a little whatever, find that out, and you do that, you know?

2:29 Like that's his advice." But that is good advice.

2:31 When you're young and you're casually having sex, most young men's experience,

2:35 and I think that the women can attest to this, it's

2:37 kind of like I there you're thinking about like just don't come.

2:41 [laughter] You know, it's like the one thing,

2:42 and you you're not necessarily thinking about anyone's needs or your own.

2:45 You're like, "I just need to look like I know

2:47 what I'm doing." And that's not the game at all.

2:50 I think that as you get older,

2:51 you start to realize this is an important part of life.

2:53 It's an important part of uh of a relationship,

2:55 and I think that if you think about your partner's

2:58 needs as almost more important than your own in that moment,

3:00 and you both kind of have that, that would be the best scenario for sex.

3:05 Like if you're thinking about their needs,

3:06 they're thinking about yours, now we're talking about something powerful there.

3:09 But if you're just like, "Yo,

3:10 I'm just going to[ __] jackhammer this to hell," no one's having fun there.

3:14 All right?

3:15 This is a 79-year-old man from America.

3:17 He said, "Let's stop lying to ourselves.

3:19 Money can buy happiness.

3:20 Just know it can't sustain happiness." This is

3:23 so insane that this is in this video cuz literally last night I was having

3:27 this conversation about if money can buy happiness,

3:30 and I don't know if it's a yes or no answer cuz

3:33 I know that celebrities who have a lot of money are like,

3:35 "Money doesn't buy happiness.

3:36 You could still be sad." And it's like I get that.

3:39 I get that.

3:39 I think that money can buy certain happiness and not overall happiness.

3:45 I don't think that overall happiness is for sale.

3:47 I think that individually, things are.

3:50 So, having financial security is a massive load off your back.

3:55 And for a lot of people that don't have financial security,

3:57 it feels like the the cuz it's the biggest thing.

4:00 My entire life is based off of financial security.

4:02 If I can't keep a roof over my head or buy food or afford to do these things,

4:07 I'm not thinking about a[ __] vacation.

4:09 I'm not even thinking about a car or a pair of rollerblades.

4:11 I'm thinking about where I have to live.

4:13 So, the idea that someone's going to be like,

4:15 "I have all the money in the world,

4:16 and I'm still sad, so money doesn't buy happiness." It's like,

4:18 "Bro,[ __] you." If I had financial security

4:20 and I can take care of all these problems,

4:23 I would then be much happier than I am now, which is true for[ __] everyone.

4:31 All that to say, money can buy certain happinesses,

4:34 but it can't buy others, which I think is obvious to people.

4:37 So, I don't think it's a yes or no.

4:39 It's like some things for some people, of course.

4:42 I do think that no matter what,

4:43 you can if you're a miserable person

4:46 and you have bad relationships in your life, and you get financial security,

4:49 and you have a place and you have to worry about

4:50 your bills or anything like that, those problems will still exist.

4:53 I think if you lack some sort of self-awareness,

4:55 you can look at that and go, "Well,

4:57 money doesn't buy happiness cuz I'm still upset." But you're not

4:59 you're not really thinking about the position that you came from.

5:02 So, if you don't have money and you're you're still miserable,

5:05 you don't have good relationships,

5:07 and you have no money, that's worse than having money,

5:09 financial security, and still having shitty relationships.

5:11 So, I think it can buy you happiness in certain ways,

5:15 but it can't handle everything,

5:17 but it certainly puts you in a better position to have money.

5:21 I don't know what my answer is.

5:22 This is an 87-year-old man from Austria.

5:24 If you're straight, imagine your dick is a little person.

5:27 Think that Greg was onto something?

5:29 Because [laughter] This is another European talking about sex.

5:33 If you're straight, imagine your dick is a little person,

5:35 and vaginas are different countries.

5:37 People want to see as many countries as they can before they die, right?

5:41 If you're gay, I guess[ __] are the countries in the analogy.

5:45 I don't know exactly how that works.

5:47 I don't know exactly what the[ __] you're saying.

5:49 What the[ __] does this even mean?

5:50 If you're straight, my dick is a little person?

5:53 Oh, oh, a little oh, I'm an idiot.

5:57 I thought he meant like a little person, but he just meant like a person.

6:01 Like because that's what I thought I thought it was like,

6:03 "Imagine it's a little person and and the vaginas are countries." I'm like,

6:06 "What is the correlation there?" Yeah,

6:08 the the little definitely doesn't need to be there.

6:09 It's just imagine your dick is a person and vaginas are different countries.

6:12 You want to see as many countries as you can before you die.

6:15 I mean, that's a pretty blanket statement.

6:17 I think that like I would like to travel.

6:20 I don't need to see as many countries as possible.

6:22 It's not that high on my [laughter] on my list.

6:26 Is this person just saying you just go[ __] as many people as you possibly can?

6:30 Yeah, I don't know if this translated well.

6:31 I do think that this 87-year-old man is probably not in a relationship.

6:35 It's fair to assume that.

6:37 Uh I don't know if this is great advice.

6:39 This this is now just I mean, it's honest advice, and that was the video.

6:43 Honest advice from old people,

6:44 but I don't know that I would take this Austrian advice.

6:47 88-year-old woman from America says,

6:49 "I finally felt free when I realized that just being at peace

6:52 was better than always trying to be right." This is very true.

6:55 In my experience, I've dealt with that in my life a bunch, too.

6:59 And I also find that people put such an emphasis on being right,

7:03 and I know how that makes me feel.

7:05 So, when people are doing that to me where they need to be right,

7:07 it's kind of off-putting, and I I don't want to be off-putting.

7:10 I want people to feel like they can communicate with me and that I hear them.

7:13 So, that's not even what I'm trying to do.

7:15 So, I'm realizing people who are so hyper-focused on being right,

7:19 it's annoying, and I I'm not trying to be that.

7:21 And being at peace is kind of what we're all after.

7:25 I mean, earlier we talked about happiness, but really it's this peace,

7:28 and peace is a mixture of happiness and sadness in a way.

7:32 You know, cuz you're not always just going to be happy.

7:34 You don't hit happiness with a certain dollar

7:36 amount or a certain amount of relationships or whatever,

7:38 and then you're just happy forever.

7:39 It kind of comes and goes,

7:41 but being at peace with knowing that that's going to happen,

7:44 I think is where we all want to be.

7:45 And accepting people's flaws and accepting that maybe

7:50 you you're unable to communicate with somebody

7:53 is better than consistently filling your time

7:56 with trying to convince them that you're right.

7:58 So, even if you do feel in your heart

8:01 of hearts that you are right about something,

8:03 and you know, you're the people that you

8:04 confide in, they also believe that you're right,

8:06 but you can't get this point across to this person,

8:08 you either have to cut them out of your life

8:10 or you have to accept the fact that you can't get through.

8:12 And it's not your job to get through, and it's not your job to to make

8:15 people more emotionally mature or emotionally intelligent.

8:18 So, you kind of just got to let that go, you know?

8:21 And and you can like I said, you can cut them out of your life completely,

8:24 you can pull back from the relationship,

8:26 and still have an understanding of who they are as a person,

8:28 but it's not your job to be right.

8:31 Your job is to take care of yourself.

8:33 And if the only way that you can feel at peace is you need everyone to like you,

8:37 you're never going to be at peace.

8:39 You're never going to be at peace, so that shouldn't be the goal.

8:41 99-year-old from Latvia.

8:43 If you want to say[ __] you to your boss so badly, then just[ __] do it.

8:47 It sounds like they don't get a lot of sun over there in Latvia.

8:50 [laughter] It will give you the confidence you need to find something new.

8:53 Um I think this kind of like is up in the air.

8:56 I don't know that this would give you the confidence to find something new.

9:00 I think that find something new,

9:02 and then go back and tell your bro boss to[ __] off.

9:04 You know what I mean?

9:05 Make sure that you're good because this is something that's so

9:07 final that you don't want to put yourself in a compromised position.

9:10 So, if your goal is to be like, "This guy is such an[ __] or this woman is such

9:14 a[ __][ __] that I cannot wait to be like,[ __] you.

9:18 I don't need this, blah blah blah." But you have

9:19 to make sure you don't need it because you got to live,

9:21 and you got to have a career, and you got to be doing something.

9:24 So, if you find something and you find a path to, you know,

9:27 you can do that, and you don't need this part of your life anymore, feel free.

9:32 Yeah, let it rip.

9:33 Because you have to understand you are burning a bridge.

9:35 You ain't coming back after this.

9:37 But if you say[ __] you,

9:38 and then you get to a point where you're like, "Now I don't have a job.

9:41 Now I lost my apartment.

9:42 Now I'm homeless." Maybe it wasn't worth it to say[ __] you to that person.

9:44 So, just set this up, and then go back and go,

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12:18 A 97-year-old man from Korea, life will always schedule misery for you.

12:21 You must be the one to schedule in the fun.

12:23 Oh, man, I love that.

12:25 I love this because I think it kind of goes back to the keeping the peace.

12:29 Life will always schedule misery for you.

12:31 None of us are going to escape heartbreaks.

12:34 And and that that doesn't necessarily mean breakups and in relationships,

12:37 but death, people that you know will die.

12:39 And people that you know will get sick, and it will be tragic.

12:41 Tragic things happen all over the world.

12:43 You know, horrible things happen all the time.

12:45 And if you focus too much on those things, then that will be your existence.

12:49 So, this is great cuz you must be the one to schedule in the fun.

12:53 You have to make your life exciting.

12:54 That has to come for you.

12:56 It's it's very rare that you're going to have opportunities where you know,

12:58 you'll just fall ass backwards into something extraordinary and like, "Wow,

13:02 whatever." You have to go out of your way for yourself because there

13:05 will be times where these miserable

13:09 things and these horrible things will happen.

13:11 And you also have to know how to cope and respond with those things.

13:14 Find ways to cope and to make life worth living.

13:17 73-year-old woman from England, stop wasting time explaining yourself to people

13:21 who already decided not to understand you.

13:23 Yeah, I mean, once you understand like I I do think that like

13:26 sometimes people take this a little too far, and they feel like,

13:28 "I'm just going to be unapologetically myself,

13:30 and I'll just say whatever." And you know,

13:31 that kind of comes across as rude in a little bit.

13:33 I think that we're all humans,

13:34 and we have to take that into consideration when communicating,

13:38 and even when you're being yourself and doing things for yourself,

13:42 you can do it in a way that isn't rude and that is polite.

13:46 So, I do think you should not have to explain yourself to people.

13:51 If people have questions, I don't think it's like, "Ah,

13:53 I'm not explaining myself to you." And you're

13:54 being shut off cuz that to me is rude.

13:56 But you don't have to explain yourself

13:59 to people that are causing negativity in your life.

14:02 And sometimes people just have a vendetta against you,

14:05 and and it's not always your fault.

14:06 Maybe it's their insecurities,

14:07 and it's being projected onto you for whatever reason,

14:10 and that's not something you can fix by being better.

14:12 So, if you spend your whole life trying to fix your relationship with someone,

14:15 and it it's got nothing to do with you.

14:17 So, nothing you can do will fix that.

14:20 They have to fix something within themsel- in inside themselves.

14:23 If they're projecting their insecurities,

14:25 the only way to shut that off is you go to the projector and you turn off.

14:27 You know what I mean?

14:28 Like you can't be a better person for this person.

14:31 If anything, that would even feed into it.

14:33 You start getting even better, there's more reason to hate you.

14:35 So, you have to understand when that is happening,

14:37 when people are acting out of insecurity or uh I don't know,

14:41 any sort of negative characteristic like that, and just

14:44 have an understanding of you're not really mad at me.

14:46 This is kind of coming from you,

14:48 and you don't need to explain yourself to that person.

14:51 You just got to create some distance and just manage that.

14:53 90-year-old man from Argentina, the best marriage advice in the world is

14:56 to marry someone who handles stress well, trust me.

14:58 That feels like pretty basic advice.

15:01 I personally I feel like, yeah, of course, dude,

15:03 cuz I'm I'm assuming marriage will be very stressful,

15:06 and you need to have good communication,

15:08 and sometimes people are not good at managing stress,

15:11 and it makes them act out emotionally, and they make emotional decisions.

15:14 They say things that they don't mean,

15:16 or they do things that they don't mean to do,

15:17 and they kind of come out of character

15:19 because the stress is kind of overwhelming,

15:21 which in one hand, you can be sympathetic

15:24 to that, but on the other hand, still happened.

15:26 You still did the thing, you still said the thing, and that's wrong.

15:29 So, every time that you get overwhelmed,

15:30 that doesn't give you a free pass to, you know,

15:33 call me names or to scream at me in some way or put me down.

15:36 I can understand why it's happening, but that doesn't give you a pass.

15:40 So, someone who handles stress well, I think that just means someone who's

15:44 able to communicate in times of like stress, obviously, you know?

15:48 Like you're able to kind of compartmentalize that of like,

15:50 "I'm upset about these things and these things,

15:52 but I still have a job to do in my relationship to communicate

15:55 and make sure I'm staying as level-headed as possible." So, I agree.

15:58 69-year-old woman from America, if you feel anxiety on Sunday nights,

16:01 then you should drastically change your life before it's too late.

16:04 I honestly never understood this.

16:06 Maybe that's because I haven't had a real job in forever.

16:09 Um but the Sunday scaries thing is interesting.

16:12 I don't know that I necessarily agree, or I agree,

16:16 of course, but it's just not always realistic to be like, "Oh,

16:20 you you're upset with your job,

16:21 just quit your job and have another job." And and you know,

16:24 excel at something else or just build something like that.

16:26 That's not always in the cards for people.

16:28 That's not always realistic.

16:29 So, I don't know that this advice is that good because if anyone

16:32 could change their life or they had a clear path to do it, I'm sure they would.

16:37 But maybe they need help, or they need a clearer path or something like that.

16:41 Like I think this is just tough advice.

16:42 Like I obviously it's not good if you're feeling

16:44 anxiety about your life and your job and whatnot.

16:46 And of course, the easy advice is like, "Hey,

16:47 change it." But that's like telling someone who has depression like,

16:50 "Hey, smile." Like it's tough.

16:51 Like there's there's more things involved in that.

16:55 I think it's okay to be upset with your life like today and tomorrow,

16:57 but if you're upset with your path, then I think it's time to think about,

17:01 "How can I change that?" Because that's that's more of like in the future.

17:05 Like if I see my path right now, and I can't see the end,

17:08 and it's almost like I don't know what my life's going to be in 10 years,

17:11 and I'm not happy with it looks like with what it looks like in 10 years,

17:14 then there's small ways to change that, and it's not as drastic

17:18 as like I'm going to quit my job and just pursue[

17:20 __] acting or some[ __] Like that feels like an intense

17:22 thing that could put you in a situation where it's actually worse.

17:25 So, I think that it's okay to have anxiety about your life right now,

17:29 cuz we all deal with that, no matter what.

17:31 And that's fine, and I wouldn't panic about those things,

17:34 but if your path is still there, then you're just on one of those journeys.

17:37 The journey is up and down.

17:38 It's good and it's bad.

17:40 It's kind of like that.

17:40 It is what it is.

17:41 But if you are really upset with the end path,

17:43 then, you know, I don't have the answers, but you have to you have to find ways

17:47 to slowly adjust your life that aren't drastic changes,

17:51 so you can kind of, you know,

17:52 create a light at the end of the tunnel, cuz that's very important.

17:54 You need like a guiding light, North Star kind of thing.

17:58 That that would make the all this anxiety and[ __] worth it.

18:00 94-year-old man from Hungary, I'm old now and will die soon.

18:04 That is fine.

18:05 What I see clearly now is that people think regret

18:07 has to do with the mistakes you made in your life,

18:09 but regret is actually a feeling that applies to the chances you did not take.

18:13 Those will bother you more than the mistakes.

18:15 Oh, man, I love that.

18:17 I mean, I'm taking that one.

18:18 I'm definitely taking that one with me, man.

18:20 Yeah, regret is a feeling that applies to the chances you did not take.

18:24 I don't even know if that's true, but it feels nice to hear.

18:26 Technically, I mean, we're getting into semantics here,

18:28 but like not taking an opportunity is a choice.

18:32 I do think the sentiment remains though that when you're at a crossroads,

18:35 or you're feeling like you need to make a big decision in your life,

18:39 think about when you're 95.

18:42 What are you going to what are you going to say?

18:43 What are you going to do?

18:44 What's going to be important to you?

18:46 If there's a chance to live the life that you want,

18:48 and that's the most important thing in the world to you,

18:51 it seems like an obvious choice.

18:52 And it's always going to be scary, and there's never going to be the right time,

18:55 and you're never going to be able to plan the whole

18:57 thing perfectly cuz it's going to suck along the way,

19:00 and you're going to suck at anything you do for the first time.

19:02 So, you might as well just start doing it.

19:04 And do it But you got to do it hard, also.

19:06 You can't just do[ __] soft.

19:07 You got to do it hard, all right?

19:09 I I do this sometimes where I think about

19:11 my mortality a lot when I'm when I'm at a crossroads,

19:13 and I'm like, "Man, I only get one shot.

19:16 Like this is it.

19:17 So, what what are the reasons why I'm not?

19:19 Am I scared?" Cuz that can't be it.

19:21 Like if I'm scared of something, like I have the fear of that, one,

19:25 I'm letting it win, that pisses me off.

19:27 And two, it's just not a good enough excuse to me.

19:30 Personally, I'm not saying for you guys, but like for me,

19:32 fear is not a good enough excuse for me

19:34 to not try something and to open my life to something.

19:37 Because once you start getting over these little fears,

19:41 your life completely opens up,

19:42 and you're able to like take in the world even more.

19:45 And there were so many times in my life that the fear

19:47 of something made me create an excuse as to why I wasn't doing it,

19:50 so that no one would ask me like I

19:52 I wouldn't have to tell people that I was scared.

19:54 So, I'd make up excuses.

19:55 Now, I'm just lying.

19:56 Like, now I'm just lying to people, and like, is that who I want to be?

19:58 Do I want to be someone who constantly

19:59 lies every time I don't want to do something?

20:01 No.

20:01 So, I've gotten to the point in my life

20:03 where I have just told myself fear is not enough.

20:06 There has to be more of a reason why I'm not going to take a path,

20:09 or why I'm not going to commit to something, or whatever.

20:11 Fear isn't enough.

20:12 So, there has to be legitimate like concrete things that are

20:17 standing in my way that are going to make me be like,

20:19 you can't that's not a good idea.

20:21 But, fear is definitely not one of them.

20:22 And I think that fear drives a lot of people away

20:24 from paths that will ultimately end up being great for them.

20:28 So, something to think about.

20:29 I don't know if I said anything there.

20:31 Here we go.

20:31 85-year-old woman from Denmark.

20:33 Give people two chances to change their character or improve themselves.

20:36 After that, give up hope on them.

20:37 Life is too short.

20:38 Yeah, this is um this is also important.

20:41 It's hard for the give up hope thing for me,

20:44 but I do think people it's hard for people to change.

20:47 I don't like saying people don't change.

20:50 I do think it's hard for people to change.

20:52 I have seen people personally that are a way, and then they do change.

20:58 The thing that's difficult with this, in my experience,

21:01 as a person who I feel went through this, is in order

21:03 to make a change like that, you got to look inward, and that's very hard to do.

21:07 And you got to you got to take responsibility

21:09 for the things that you don't have in your life, and the bad things about you.

21:12 Cuz there's bad things about everybody.

21:14 And you are able to make change only when you start

21:17 admitting that you're wrong about[ __] or that you've done things wrong,

21:20 that you've made mistakes.

21:21 You have to be able to admit that, and that's

21:23 very hard to do for a lot of people.

21:25 And I'm not saying I'm getting it right every single time, either.

21:28 There's a few times in my life where I I'm able to look back and be like,

21:31 that was wrong, or this is wrong, or whatever.

21:33 And I'm constantly trying to do those check-ins,

21:34 cuz I think that the payoff is so grand to like,

21:37 when you are able to acknowledge mistakes,

21:40 and failures, and stupid things, and whatever, and then move on, like,

21:45 that's the only way you're able to move on.

21:46 But, if you can't hold yourself accountable,

21:48 and you sort of get away with it with yourself, you're not going to change.

21:52 Because there was no consequence there.

21:53 I think it's good to feel the weight of your mistakes, and your failures.

21:57 Because now that you know what that feels like, moving forward,

22:00 you're like, I don't want to feel like that again.

22:01 So, it teaches you to be better, essentially, you know?

22:05 So, for other people, you also have to realize that just because you're able

22:09 to do that, doesn't mean that it's that easy for other people.

22:12 And they're dealing with their own lives, and their own[ __] that's going on.

22:15 So, maybe they don't even have the bandwidth

22:17 or the time to start looking inward, and dealing with this stuff,

22:20 because they have a lot of different stuff going on.

22:21 And you got to be accepting of that, as well.

22:23 And I don't think it makes them a bad person, but for you,

22:27 in order to keep your peace, you have to say, this is just who they are.

22:30 Maybe they can change one day, but I'm not feeling it right now.

22:33 So, I kind of have to create some distance.

22:35 I I'm not really a person who like cuts people off,

22:37 unless they're just bad people that I feel like they're bad people.

22:40 But, I do create some distance, because it's important to me to feel like

22:44 the people that are around me are uplifting,

22:46 and positive, and are adding to my life.

22:48 But, if you're not, it's kind of like,

22:50 I'm not going to throw you out, but I'll keep you here,

22:53 and like, I'm still here for you in a way,

22:55 just not you're not standing right next to me, type of thing.

22:57 And that's the end of the video.

23:00 [laughter] That was a lot of rambling.

23:00 I don't know if I answered any of these questions.

23:02 Not that they were questions.

23:03 I really no one asked for this advice from me.

23:05 Um but, that's what the old bag said.

23:06 That's what they said, and they're always right.

23:08 And I'm sure all these people are like, how did I make it to 99?

23:11 Cigarettes every morning.

23:12 And you're like, all right, not going to do that.

23:14 But, uh thank you for everyone for making it to the end of the video.

23:16 Don't forget to subscribe, and we'll see you next time.