TRICK TO MAKE PEOPLE LIKE YOU

0:00 Don't focus on making people like you,

0:01 because you can do everything right and people may still just not like you.

0:05 Instead, focus on how about I'm going to be competent in what I do.

0:10 When I say I'm going to do something, I follow through.

0:12 When I say I can do something, I actually can do it.

0:15 When I say I'm going to be there at 9:00, I'm there at 8:55.

0:18 In the U.S.

0:19 Secret Service, we had a saying, "If you're on time,

0:21 you're late." So, I show you that I'm competent.

0:25 When you see that, are you going to like me for that?

0:27 Yes, you are.

0:28 I'll respect you.

0:30 Now, there's warmth.

0:32 Warmth is the other element here.

0:34 Warmth is I show you respect.

0:36 So, instead of me trying to get you to like me,

0:38 how about I just show you respect?

0:40 What does that look like in reality, showing someone respect?

0:42 Is that again the time keeping?

0:43 I'm listening to you.

0:44 I show up on time.

0:45 I follow through with what I say I'm going to do.

0:47 I'm also open and approachable.

0:49 I'm also non-judgmental.

0:50 That's a big thing.

0:52 Everybody's kind of like throwing their weight around.

0:54 Let me tell you what I think.

0:55 Let me tell you what I think.

0:56 Nobody needs to know what you think.

0:58 It doesn't matter.

0:59 If you're really trying to build a connection with a person, then build it.

1:03 And let them tell you what they think.

1:06 Because now I see the world through your lens, not mine.