Performative Males

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0:14 Folks, I'll say it.

0:15 Being a man is hard these days.

0:16 It has never been more difficult to navigate the male experience than right now.

0:21 Whenever I'm sitting down on the bus or the subway,

0:23 women are always getting in the way of my legs.

0:26 It's like, "Hello, I'm trying to spread out here, you asshole." It's relentless,

0:31 you know, day after day with these relentless attacks from women.

0:35 Oh, I left the toilet seat up.

0:37 Yeah, that's cuz there's my pee on there and I didn't feel like cleaning it up.

0:41 I am joking, obviously, but I do genuinely think it is the weirdest

0:45 time to be a man on the internet right now.

0:47 Not the most difficult by any means.

0:49 It's kind of been smooth sailing forever for us dudes,

0:52 but it is a weird time to say the least.

0:54 There's a lot of weird men online grifting off of young, lonely,

0:57 vulnerable men by promoting this a weird like skewed,

1:00 dated, and harmful version of masculinity.

1:03 And I've noticed now like a lot of young men feel emboldened

1:06 to engage in misogynistic behavior because of who they regularly watch online.

1:11 Or who knows, maybe it's because of the man

1:12 who is currently the president of the United States.

1:15 Grab him by the[ __] Who knows?

1:16 And there's a certain trend going on right now involving a specific

1:20 type of man that I really want to talk about today.

1:23 Not only because I think it's very interesting,

1:24 but also because I've kind of somehow become one

1:28 of the[ __] poster boys for this genre of man.

1:31 And I'm of course talking about performative males.

1:35 Now, I know you're all probably thinking, "What is a performative male?

1:38 Is that those birthday cards that sing when you open them up?" Yes,

1:42 technically that that is performative male,

1:44 but I am talking about performative men.

1:46 If you look up performative males on Tik Tok,

1:49 you will be bombarded with videos of dudes holding tote bags,

1:52 drinking matcha lattes, listening to Clara,

1:55 and clipping laboo to their belt loops.

1:57 Now, unfortunately for me, I actually do all those things sometimes,

2:01 except for clipping a laboo on my belt loop.

2:04 I do that all the time.

2:06 I am kidding, by the way.

2:07 I do want to go on record and say that I think laboos are dumb and weird.

2:11 If you want an ugly little freak attached to your hip all day, just have a baby.

2:15 Other than that though, I don't see an issue with all the other stuff.

2:17 Tote bags fit all my crap.

2:19 Matcha lattes taste really good.

2:21 And Claro makes good music.

2:22 But the reason this type of man is labeled

2:24 performative is people assume they aren't actually being genuine.

2:28 People think it's all an act, a performance, if you will.

2:30 The common opinion about this genre of guy

2:32 is that they're only dressing this way and behaving

2:34 like this so they can attract progressive women so

2:37 they can then slide their willies in their hoo-ha.

2:39 And you've seen these guys.

2:40 These are the dudes reading feminist literature outside of cafes.

2:43 They're writing poetry,

2:45 keeping spare tampons and pads in his tote bags because he's an ally.

2:50 Oh my god.

2:51 Is he an ally or ally?

2:57 But obviously people are a little skeptical when

2:59 it comes to the sincerity of these men.

3:01 But real quick, you are lying if you say you've never pretended

3:04 to be interested in a certain topic to attract a specific person.

3:08 Dude, I remember there was a girl I had a crush on in middle

3:10 school and she was like a huge fan of the Montreal Canadians.

3:14 So, obviously, I changed my MSN profile picture

3:17 to the logo of of the Montreal Canadians.

3:20 And every week, little 12-year-old Kurt would just be like,

3:22 "How about that game last night?" And I never watched a single game, dude.

3:26 I couldn't, okay?

3:26 I was too busy playing Adventure Quest and watching Chris Angel Mind Freak.

3:30 But if she knew all of that, she wouldn't have talked to me.

3:32 I mean, she didn't really talk to me

3:33 that much about the hockey team either, but still.

3:35 Obviously, it's a little different pretending to like a hockey

3:38 team and then pretending to think like women are people,

3:41 but hockey, feminism, it's I think everybody has been performative to an extent.

3:45 I'm a different person with my grandparents than I am with my best friends.

3:48 It's a part of life.

3:49 We put on slightly different performances uh based on who we're with.

3:52 Look at Travis Kelce with his ex.

3:54 And now look at Travis Kelce with his current partner.

3:57 But this trend of performative feminist men

3:59 has absolutely exploded these past few months.

4:01 And I unfortunately have been lumped into this group

4:04 mostly because I look a lot like these dudes.

4:07 Mullet, mustache, tattoos, you know,

4:10 and I can take the criticism to a certain extent,

4:12 but I got to defend myself a little bit here cuz guys,

4:15 I have had this look for[ __] years, bro.

4:18 I grew a mullet way back in 2020.

4:20 I grew a mustache a year after that and I started getting tattooed 12 years ago.

4:25 Do not cite the deep magic to me, which I was there when it was written.

4:29 And also, dude, the whole reason that performative males

4:32 are doing this is so they can get with women.

4:35 I'm married, you[ __] idiots.

4:37 I've been with my wife for like 10 years, dude.

4:39 Leave me alone.

4:40 So, I want to get ahead of any of these boring ass[ __] tweets

4:42 that are going to 100% they're going to screenshot this thumbnail and the title,

4:46 and they're going to be like, "But the call is coming from inside the house,

4:48 not the pot calling the kettle black." Because every few months,

4:51 dude, like clockwork,

4:52 a tweet making fun of how I look will do[ __] numbers, dude.

4:56 And people will tag me like[ __] crazy.

4:58 And I've had enough.

4:59 Okay, I am putting my foot down.

5:01 Don't be sad.

5:01 She's an old foot.

5:02 She's had a very long life.

5:03 It's okay.

5:04 Exhibit A.

5:05 So, so, so sick of seeing this genre of man.

5:08 And this is the one that started it all.

5:09 Picture of me and Idubbbz.

5:11 Going to say I had to look way before him.

5:13 Okay.

5:13 Hello.

5:13 Prepare for me to periodically pop up

5:15 throughout this video because while I was editing,

5:17 I found more stuff and also thought of more stuff.

5:21 So, I don't know if you guys have seen this, but uh

5:23 this so so so sick of the genre of man screenshot.

5:27 It goes viral every few months.

5:28 You know, it does suck to see it all the time, but I've realized, you know,

5:31 over the years that it's it's actually like bringing people together,

5:35 which is really nice.

5:36 I've seen like dozens of right-wing alpha male bros

5:40 make fun of how I look because of this picture.

5:42 But that's not all.

5:43 Okay, I actually just saw this page, women's rights news,

5:47 which is a page dedicated to intersectional feminism,

5:51 gender equality, pro-choice, abortion rights,

5:54 and health and reproductive rights.

5:55 All those are great in my books.

5:57 Um, but they also just reposted it as well.

6:00 So, you know, that one stings extra hard.

6:02 But, you know, it is comforting to know

6:03 that no matter where you stand on feminism,

6:05 both sides both sides can agree that I look dumb.

6:11 That's that's nice.

6:12 If you guys are so pro-choice, then you guys should be okay with the choice I

6:16 made to get this[ __] haircut and stupid mustache, bro.

6:20 Shame.

6:21 Shame on you guys.

6:22 And another one.

6:22 There's a factory out there manufacturing this specific kind of man,

6:25 and I'm going to find it and compromise

6:27 its structural integrity with a pressure cooker.

6:29 Hobo Johnson.

6:30 Come on.

6:30 What is this genre of man called?

6:32 9 million views.

6:34 Dude, I used to love this picture of me,

6:35 and I would like to formally apologize for its consequences.

6:38 Oh yeah, and this one, we got a video next.

6:39 Is this a safe space to say that I

6:41 have a strong dislike for this specific type of man?

6:43 Oh yeah, got me good.

6:44 Ouch, that one stings.

6:46 How dare you put me in a slideshow with Jacob

6:49 Allorti and Hassan[ __] How will I recover from that one?

6:53 And then there's the most recent one.

6:54 Performative male or 1980s serial killer.

6:58 How many can you guess correctly?

6:59 And then there's pictures of guys with mustaches.

7:01 And you know what?

7:02 I'll admit that one's pretty funny.

7:03 You know, at least it's creative.

7:05 It is pretty shocking seeing how similar I look to a 1980s serial killer,

7:09 but not as shocking as the number of people I killed in the8s.

7:12 Also, hey, I think an easy way to tell which one uh is

7:15 the serial killer is if the photo you're looking at is a mug shot.

7:20 I don't know if the guy posing for a selfie

7:21 with an AirPod in his ear is the 1980s serial killer.

7:25 And some of the comments on this post are[ __] crazy.

7:27 There's no difference.

7:28 One kills your body and the other one kills your soul.

7:31 How bro felt after commenting that.

7:33 Also, very funny to say that there's

7:34 no difference and then immediately explain the difference.

7:37 Thankfully, people are defending me in the comments though,

7:39 so that is very nice of them.

7:41 Thank you guys.

7:42 Kurt, don't listen to them.

7:42 We won't let them hurt you.

7:44 Curtis has been rocking a bullet and a mustache.

7:46 A bullet.

7:48 Curtis has been rocking a mullet and a mustache forever.

7:50 And he has a wife.

7:51 I don't think he's preformative.

7:53 Jokes on you.

7:53 I am preformative.

7:55 I'm a fetus.

7:56 How is Curtis up here with the others?

7:58 Man does a video on the game chair.

7:59 Is that secretly a feminist performance?

8:01 First off, not a chair.

8:02 That's a chair.

8:03 But yes, it is actually.

8:04 That video of me sitting alone on a video

8:07 gear command center crying about my dead stepfather.

8:09 That was actually done to impress people.

8:11 Like, why the[ __] do I get looped in with this[ __] I don't understand.

8:14 My last video was me and my friend playing with a Mind Flex.

8:17 If you watch that video and you were like,

8:19 "What a performative, man." You actually have a hollow head.

8:23 There's nothing in there.

8:24 Hello again.

8:24 So, while I was editing this video,

8:25 I found like way more examples of this, but I

8:28 saw one in particular that was just truly batshit insane.

8:31 There was an Instagram reel with a wolf in sheep's clothing,

8:35 and it also had the classic picture of me and Idubbbz in it at the end.

8:38 So, first off, you're calling me a wolf.

8:43 Okay, that's[ __] cool.

8:46 Thank you.

8:46 Wolves are awesome.

8:47 Inside of me are two wolves and I am both of them.

8:50 But that wasn't the craziest part of it, dude.

8:52 The craziest part was the comment on this Instagram reel that got 6300 likes.

8:58 I'm super happy.

9:00 I'm super happy are finally recognizing Curtis as performative.

9:05 For real, he honestly pisses me off.

9:07 How is he performative?

9:08 What did he do?

9:09 It just be the vibes, Lo.

9:11 Like every time he talks about politics, it's so surface level and safe.

9:14 And he talks about them a lot.

9:16 He'll just say stuff like, "Guys, now hurting people is not cool.

9:20 OB, I'm calling this now.

9:21 One day some things are going to come up about him cuz I don't know,

9:25 there's something that's just off." Hey, dude.

9:30 And I say this with so much love.

9:33 Touch grass.

9:34 Literally, open your front door and walk outside.

9:37 It will do wonders for your brain.

9:39 I promise.

9:39 This is why I try to ignore anything I see about

9:42 me on the internet because people are just so[ __] cooked, man.

9:44 Like, could you imagine if a judge was like, "Now,

9:46 I know all the evidence points towards the crime being

9:49 committed by a completely different person, but I don't know.

9:54 It just be the vibes loc.

9:55 Send him to the electric chair at once."

9:57 And also, dude, this part of the comment,

9:58 he only talks about politics at the surface level.

10:02 Yeah.

10:04 Yeah.

10:04 I'm a comedian, man.

10:05 I don't have a[ __] degree in politics.

10:07 I'm What?

10:08 And also, I don't think this person does

10:09 either based on all their[ __] spelling mistakes, dude.

10:12 Sorry I don't give a[ __] 100,000word dissertation

10:15 in my videos every time I talk about[ __] politics, bro.

10:18 And I'm sorry if you're clicking on my videos expecting that.

10:21 You're an idiot.

10:22 I feel like I've uh subtracted IQ points

10:24 from my brain after researching[ __] for this video,

10:27 but I just had to talk about that after seeing that cuz that was truly wild.

10:30 What the[ __] are we talking about, guys?

10:32 Let's Let's all just go outside.

10:33 All right, back to me.

10:34 I guess I've made several videos sort

10:36 of denouncing toxic masculinity and misogyny and stuff.

10:39 So I guess so I guess I'm performative for doing that.

10:41 But I mean that's and obviously it's annoying to see people,

10:46 you know, make assumptions about you and your character.

10:48 I'm not going to sit here and be like,

10:49 I don't care what anybody says about me cuz then I'd be lying.

10:52 And to an extent, I think you could call any YouTuber

10:54 or creator performative because you're only seeing what they choose to show you.

10:59 This is a performance for an audience.

11:00 Okay?

11:00 And don't get me wrong,

11:01 I understand the frustration towards this type of man because it

11:05 can be hard to discern when people are being genuine or not.

11:08 So, with this video, I want to figure out if there is actually a foolproof

11:12 way to learn whether or not a man is actually being performative.

11:16 And according to engagement farmers on the internet,

11:19 I am an authority figure on this subject apparently.

11:21 So, what I say goes.

11:23 I have compiled a small sample of performative males and I thought it'd be fun

11:26 to look at some of the accused and together we will get to the bottom of this.

11:30 So, let's start with our first performative male.

11:33 I think it's really funny that I dress like this and give

11:35 off like tough like a tough sort of thing going on.

11:40 Um, and then I cried to Phoebe Brides

11:43 in the shower and I listen to Crosse and Boy Genius.

11:47 And um, the dichotomy is crazy, but uh,

11:51 I don't even listen to hardcore music that much.

11:53 Look at this shirt.

11:54 It's my friend's tattoo brand.

11:56 Anyway, um, I'm going to go later.

12:00 All right, bro.

12:00 That was not I didn't like that.

12:02 I did not like watching that one.

12:04 It's a little weird to cry to Phoebe Brides in the shower.

12:07 She'll be fine.

12:08 Micious water.

12:09 I think after watching this video,

12:10 my gut is leaning towards performative cuz like you can

12:13 dress however you want and listen to whatever you want.

12:15 Truly, nobody gives a[ __] But to set the camera up

12:18 and then just keep talking and then just post all of that.

12:22 Come on, man.

12:23 I do feel bad that people were really making

12:25 fun of him for this, but like I don't know.

12:26 You got to have a little self-awareness, pal.

12:28 You know what I mean?

12:29 Could you imagine someone saying this to you in person?

12:30 Crazy how I like look this way, but like I'm sensitive and[ __] A

12:36 I actually think boy genius should be called girl genius cuz they are.

12:41 Where'd you go?

12:41 And also, hey man, I'll say it.

12:43 I'm about to say it.

12:44 The dichotomy isn't crazy.

12:46 It's really not.

12:47 I would not assume that this guy listens to hardcore music.

12:50 Like, not even for a second.

12:51 Have you ever been to a hardcore show?

12:52 No one actually dresses like that, dude.

12:54 Dude, every guy at a hardcore show dresses like a[ __] software developer, okay?

12:59 They're all nerds, man.

13:00 I feel like if you wore that exact outfit to a hardcore show,

13:02 people would assume you are an undercover cop.

13:05 Greetings, fellow rock and rollers.

13:06 The dichotomy is crazy.

13:08 And what rhymes with dichotomy?

13:10 I got to be, as in I got to be doing some hard drugs tonight.

13:13 Who has some?

13:14 This video was posted by a guy named Sam Wilmont.

13:17 And after this video went viral, he sadly deleted his Tik Tok.

13:21 Um, I guess he Wilmont lived that down.

13:25 [Music] So, because he deleted his Tik Toks, the only Tik Toks I could find

13:30 of his were ones that people stitched, like this one.

13:32 So, I guess you're funny because I 100% am baby girl.

13:35 I spent my Sunday um journaling.

13:39 Yeah.

13:39 So, I guess another performative male stereotype is journaling,

13:42 which I'm not even 100% sure like what that is exactly.

13:45 Okay, I just looked it up.

13:46 Journaling is the act of writing what you have done each day.

13:49 Sometimes including your private thoughts, feelings, and goals.

13:53 Okay, so like a diary.

13:54 It's a diary.

13:54 Right?

13:55 Your masculinity is so fragile, you can't even use the word diary.

13:58 Come on, bro.

13:59 Man up.

13:59 Man up and call that[ __] a diary.

14:01 Okay.

14:02 And you can use it as a verb, I'm sure.

14:03 Right.

14:04 Yeah, I spent my Sunday diarrhea.

14:06 Also, maybe this is just because I'm uh immature, but personally,

14:09 I can't picture a dude like genuinely like sitting down and journaling.

14:14 I don't want to say like guys can't journal,

14:16 but I just like me personally, I can't picture doing that.

14:18 I just feel like guys don't take

14:19 things seriously enough to actually do that, right?

14:21 Especially someone who's pretending to journal to get with women.

14:27 Hey, what are you doing?

14:28 Oh, this is so embarrassing.

14:30 I'm uh I'm journaling.

14:32 Oh my god, I love that.

14:34 What do you write in your journal?

14:35 I think the better question is what don't I write in my journal?

14:38 From my deepest darkest fears to my hopes and dreams and anything in between,

14:43 it's it's a glimpse into the inner workings of my mind.

14:47 tonight.

14:47 I find it really therapeutic to just get out my thoughts and feelings on paper.

14:51 That's beautiful.

14:52 Yeah, it is.

14:53 Yeah.

14:53 I've got a large iced matcha latte for Braxton.

14:56 That's me.

14:57 I'll be right back.

14:58 I'll be here.

15:09 What the[ __] Ew.

15:12 This is what matcha tastes like?

15:15 I hate this more than women voting.

15:18 Aw, he's the worst.

15:19 When it comes to[ __] doctor dichotomy over here,

15:22 I can't say for certain if he's being performative

15:24 or not because I don't know him personally, right?

15:26 But I mean, if the shoe fits, you know, if the Doc Martin fits,

15:29 I guess my main critique really is he just set the camera

15:32 up and then just like said all of these things about himself.

15:36 You know, if this was a candid video

15:38 of him genuinely weeping in the shower to Phoebe Brides,

15:41 then I'd be humming a different tune.

15:43 So, until I get that video, for now, I am going to give this guy the stamp.

15:46 Okay, he is footworn.

15:48 Let's take a look at the next suspect.

15:49 Do you get attached after stacks?

15:52 Do I get attached after making love?

15:55 Um, do you make love to everyone?

16:00 Yeah, everyone.

16:01 I don't want to.

16:02 It's a big decision, you know, to let someone in and be comfortable with them.

16:06 Oh, brother.

16:07 So, yeah, I do make love with people I make love with.

16:12 What?

16:12 Dude, even if he is being 100% genuine, I cannot believe this is a real guy.

16:17 Dude, that's crazy.

16:19 And I feel like you can tell when guys are purposely making their voice lower.

16:22 Don't get me wrong, I did that all the time when I was 13.

16:25 But that's when you're supposed to do it, dude.

16:27 I was a literal child walking around school like,

16:29 "Yo, guys, my mommy packed me Lunchables today." But come on, bro.

16:32 You're an adult.

16:33 I fall in love so fast and I'm so sensitive and I'm very picky.

16:38 Yeah, I don't know if I buy it, pal.

16:40 This is the type of dude to like say all this and then

16:42 like love bomb you like crazy and then just ghost you forever, you know?

16:45 Also, speaking of guys, we got to call love bombing something else.

16:47 Okay, we got to change that name.

16:49 Love bomb.

16:49 That sounds like a big hug or something, right?

16:51 Here comes a love bomb.

16:52 I think it should be used for like if

16:53 you haven't seen someone in a really long time.

16:55 Okay, maybe if a loved one comes back from a vacation finally,

16:58 you meet them at the airport and you scream as loud as you can in the airport.

17:02 Here comes a love bomb.

17:03 Okay, sorry.

17:04 Back to the Tik Tok.

17:05 I forgot I didn't show you the end.

17:06 I didn't show you the end of the Tik Tok.

17:08 It's the best part.

17:08 I tend to really be into it and I get attached.

17:13 Imagine that's not even part of the video.

17:15 Those were just transmitted into the cameraman's brain.

17:18 Leave me alone.

17:23 Akira.

17:22 I think it's safe to say this motorcycle man is being a tad performative.

17:26 I think he's trying to seem more deep and emotional than he actually is.

17:30 You know, because when the girl asked him that question,

17:31 he could have just said, "Yes.

17:33 Yes, I do get attached after sex." He could have just said yes.

17:35 But no, dude.

17:36 He had to pull all that[ __] I never use the word[ __] I say make love.

17:41 Yo, nice motorcycle[ __]

17:43 Make love off, man.

17:44 But again, this is the hard part of figuring out cuz like maybe who knows,

17:47 maybe this guy is actually like that.

17:49 We don't know.

17:50 It's really hard to tell, but I mean and I hate to do two in a row,

17:52 but my gut is telling me he gets a stand, too.

17:55 Okay, he is performative as well.

17:56 I'm sorry.

17:57 Okay, let's look at another guy.

17:58 When you've been performative reading foreign affairs magazine for 20 minutes,

18:02 but forgot to pretend to turn the page.

18:04 Okay, sorry this man isn't reading quick enough for you.

18:07 Really?

18:07 Do you think Albert Einstein breezed through every single book he read?

18:11 No.

18:12 He probably read the same page over and over

18:14 and over again until he thoroughly understood it.

18:16 And you're just laughing at this guy.

18:18 This man is trying to figure out a way to stop

18:20 foreign people from cheating on their spouses and you're laughing.

18:22 I assume that's what Foreign Affairs magazine is about.

18:24 I am unfamiliar.

18:25 And also I hate this video cuz like you could just be lying.

18:28 Maybe he was turning the pages.

18:29 You just caught him while he was not

18:30 turning the pages and you can be like, "Yeah,

18:32 he was actually on the page for 20 minutes." Like,

18:33 we don't know if you were[ __] lying or not, right?

18:34 Drop the extended cut of this TikTok.

18:36 Okay, the director's cut.

18:37 And I will say, okay, if I can be earnest,

18:40 it does objectively suck to make fun of someone for reading in public.

18:45 Like, sure, if a guy is reading a Ben Shapiro book in public,

18:48 for sure make fun of him, dude.

18:49 That guy's a[ __] loser.

18:50 But the whole thing with performative males is like they're

18:52 out in public reading[ __] Sylvia Pla or Margaret Atwood.

18:56 And I think it's kind of counterintuitive

18:58 to shame men for reading progressive literature.

19:01 when people often complain about men

19:02 not reading enough progressive literature, right?

19:05 Hello again for a third time.

19:06 I wanted to touch on something really quick.

19:08 After talking to my wife about this topic,

19:11 uh she actually brought up a really good point that I didn't think about myself.

19:14 Uh which is actually kind of the point in and of itself.

19:16 As a man, I'm a male.

19:18 I will never relate to or fully understand

19:20 a book like The Handmaid's Tale or The Bell Jar

19:23 or Janeire because I don't personally know what it's

19:26 like to be a woman and I never will.

19:28 Like that is a completely different lived experience.

19:30 And I will never in my life know what that is truly like.

19:33 That's like if I read the Malcolm X autobiography and I was like,

19:36 damn, he's just like me for real.

19:37 Like that'd be insane.

19:38 So I do understand why women assume men

19:40 aren't being genuine when they read feminist books, especially in public.

19:44 Like if you and your friends had a secret handshake and then

19:46 one day you saw other people doing the exact same secret handshake,

19:49 you'd be like, "What the[ __] bro?

19:51 That's our[ __] That's our thing.

19:52 You don't know anything about that.

19:54 Stop at once." Kind of like that, but not at all.

19:57 I don't know.

19:58 I don't know if that's a good comparison or not.

19:59 But I think the point I'm trying to make is although men won't ever

20:01 like 100% fully relate to a book about what it's like to be a woman.

20:06 It definitely couldn't hurt in the long run to read a book

20:08 like that and at least try to learn something new and better yourself.

20:11 Like I'm sure these books are way more beneficial

20:13 to read if you want to improve yourself than those[ __]

20:15 books that are like#[ __] that[ __] 100 beast

20:19 mode tips to level up your life like a boss.

20:22 Forward by Gary Ve's hairline.

20:25 That's what I was trying to say.

20:26 But uh back to the video.

20:27 I'm sure I'll see you again.

20:28 And I know this whole thing is a joke and a meme,

20:30 and I understand why girls are making fun

20:32 of dudes for doing[ __] like this because, you know, to be fair,

20:35 I guess women have been made fun

20:37 of for doing anything publicly for like the forever.

20:42 So, it's only fair, but at the same time,

20:44 and I hate to be that friend that's too woke,

20:45 but I think making fun of dudes who are genuinely interested in feminist

20:50 literature and automatically labeling them

20:52 as performative or manipulative, I don't know.

20:54 I feel like it's probably going to discourage them and other

20:57 young men from engaging and adapting more feminist and progressive ideologies.

21:02 Right.

21:02 Call me crazy, but I'd rather a guy read the same page of a foreign affairs

21:07 magazine for 20 minutes than sit down and listen

21:09 to 3 hours of the Joe Rogan Experience.

21:12 It kind of brings me back to what I mentioned at the beginning of the video,

21:14 how it's kind of just like a weird time to be a a man on the internet right now.

21:18 There's been like a calculated targeting of young men from conservative

21:21 news outlets and the current administration in the United States.

21:24 In the 2024 election, 54% of young men voted for Donald Trump,

21:30 a convicted felon with several essay accusations against him,

21:34 that is 54% too many in my opinion.

21:36 So, if there are dudes out there genuinely

21:38 engaging in feminist progressive literature, that is good.

21:41 I think also like when did reading a book become performative?

21:44 You know, it's books, dude.

21:47 They're books.

21:48 You're going to walk into a library, see a little kid reading the Rainbow Fish,

21:51 and be like, "Hey, somebody come get their performative ass kid." Bro,

21:54 I guess if you don't want to be made fun of for reading in public,

21:57 you just got to read a book that isn't performative at all.

21:59 I'm trying to think of the like the least

22:00 performative book a man can read in public.

22:03 I mean, it's got to be the 2001 Guinness Book of World Records, right, dude?

22:07 Whipping that[ __] out at a coffee shop, dude.

22:09 Oh my god, that would be so badass.

22:11 You don't even order a coffee there either, dude.

22:13 and you whip out that big purple book and you

22:15 slam a[ __] 2 L of Mountain Dew on that table

22:18 and then you read that[ __] and every time

22:19 you flip to a new page you go whoa cool.

22:22 Okay, we're going to move on to the next performative male.

22:24 Now, this next guy is named Montaine,

22:27 but some of you guys might recognize this guy from this epic rap video he made.

22:31 I never get tired of the hate.

22:33 You got to be good.

22:35 And I know the hate comments only happen boy.

22:39 And then obviously everybody was calling him the cut boy guy.

22:42 But this guy makes a lot of videos where he's like,

22:44 "Do you guys want to hear another disgusting secret

22:46 about men that they don't want you to know?"

22:47 And then he'll just go on to say a bunch

22:48 of stuff that doesn't really make sense to me.

22:50 Okay.

22:50 His standards while he's drinking are not the standards

22:53 that he's going to have when he wakes up.

22:55 So they boy.

22:55 But he uploaded a video recently that some people have labeled as performative.

22:59 So let's check that one out.

23:00 Every single man that you will ever meet

23:02 for the rest of your days as a single person, okay?

23:05 Is simply a combination of every woman's cool

23:10 traits that he knew before you met him.

23:13 That is it.

23:14 That every cool guy ran through or not is simply

23:18 just a combination of every cool woman that came before you.

23:23 Yeah.

23:23 I think that's just being a person.

23:25 I think that's just being a human.

23:26 Everyone you meet is a product of every

23:28 person that they've ever come into contact with.

23:30 I think that's just a human experience, right?

23:32 I don't know if it's just exclusive to women though,

23:34 you know, like you can develop cool traits from men as well.

23:37 I think, right, there are many men in my life that have rubbed off on me.

23:40 Not like that.

23:41 Hold up.

23:42 Not like that.

23:44 I wish.

23:44 But the way Kore worded this implies that every

23:48 trait that men possess is solely from women.

23:51 Even if you meet the most evil,

23:54 hateful, racist, misogynistic man in the entire world.

23:58 Again, that is a woman's fault that he is like that.

24:01 Okay, good message, man.

24:02 It also sounds[ __] terrifying, dude.

24:04 Every man is just a combination of every woman he's ever met.

24:07 That's horror movie[ __] dude.

24:09 Imagine you show up for a blind date and the man waiting

24:11 for you has the arm of a woman he met at the grocery store,

24:15 the legs of his mom, the eyeballs of his second grade English teacher,

24:19 the mouth of his ex-girlfriend, and he's just like,

24:21 this is also frustrating because like, dude,

24:23 his video implies that men are incapable

24:26 of being good role models for other men, which is just untrue.

24:29 Don't get me wrong, there are obviously millions

24:32 of bad role models uh for men out there, especially on the internet.

24:35 I feel like the bar is pretty low to be considered a good role model for men.

24:38 But still, that doesn't mean there aren't positive traits

24:40 that you can get from the men in your life, right?

24:42 For example, my stepfather, may he rest in peace, he taught me so much, dude.

24:45 He showed me how to cut my hands underneath a hand

24:47 dryer in the perfect way to make a really loud fart sound.

24:51 Good men exist in terms of being performative.

24:53 Kaboa genuinely seems like at least a little more genuine than the other guys,

24:57 which is kind of crazy.

24:58 He had every opportunity to become a full-on right-wing grifter after

25:03 everybody made fun of him for the[ __] K Boy thing.

25:05 But, you know, he stuck to his guns and he kept making this content,

25:08 you know, and I got to respect that.

25:10 I do find this video in particular a little ironic though because

25:13 his caption for this obviously pro

25:15 women video is Brandy Twitter, Brandy Melville.

25:18 Bro, Brandy Melville.

25:20 How the hell are you going to make a video essentially saying men are

25:23 only cool because every woman they've ever

25:25 met is unique and different and distinctive?

25:28 And right below that, you're like, "Anyways,

25:30 I got this sweater from a place that makes clothing

25:32 for strictly skinny girls." It's just a little odd to like hype

25:35 up women while you're wearing a sweater from a company

25:37 with a long history of bigotry and body shaming towards women specifically.

25:43 Dare I say it, the dichotomy is crazy.

25:45 But like I said, this trend of performative males or the trend

25:48 of making fun of them at least has absolutely exploded.

25:51 And when things get popular these days,

25:53 they have a contest about it in local parks.

25:55 So, I have seen tons of videos on Tik

25:57 Tok of these performative male contests all over North

26:00 America where dudes will show up and perform as performative

26:03 males to win the title of most performative male.

26:05 This one was actually kind of cool.

26:06 It was kind of like a fashion show where each contestant walked and showed

26:09 off their books and tote bags

26:11 and lattes and it's actually bringing people together,

26:14 which is actually kind of nice.

26:15 But I got to say, you guys are[ __] amateurs, bro.

26:18 Coming from the leader of the performative males, you guys blew it.

26:21 I know an easy way to win this[ __] While everyone is walking

26:23 in the circle showing off their stuff to the crowd, here's what you do.

26:27 You hang out on the outskirts of the circle and you're

26:29 eating the Handmaid's Tail and you're sipping a matcha latte.

26:31 You're not even paying attention to the[ __] contest

26:33 that's going on because you're too cool for that[ __]

26:35 And that's when you pull out the Claro record

26:37 and then you[ __] drive out of there, dude.

26:41 A few weeks later, you'll get your prize in the mail.

26:45 Performative now.

26:46 And hey, these contests are fun and silly,

26:48 but also they kind of bum me out a little bit.

26:50 mostly because one of these contests use a[ __] picture of me on the flyer.

26:53 But also, what started as a very fair critique uh

26:56 about men who feain interest in feminism to attract women,

27:00 it has kind of devolved into, "Hey, look at this guy reading a book.

27:04 What a[ __][ __] Let's kill them." And I

27:06 know it's tongue and cheek, but I don't know.

27:07 I just feel like all these contests are a little ironic to me.

27:09 I feel like the type of dudes who would

27:11 enter this contest are only there to be like,

27:13 "Ladies, don't guys like this suck?

27:15 I'm not like these performative males that you hate so much.

27:18 therefore you should sleep with me instead.

27:20 Which is exactly what the performative males are doing

27:22 in the first place that you're making fun of.

27:24 Right?

27:24 And this isn't the first time a trend like this has happened either.

27:26 History repeats itself on the internet every few years.

27:28 Okay?

27:29 I made a video back in like 2019 about soft boys,

27:32 which were like, you know, quiet, artsy guys.

27:34 You know, they act like a sweet, innocent boy, but in reality,

27:37 they're they're doing all that just to hook up with girls, right, dude?

27:40 It's the exact same.

27:41 And before that, in[ __] 2012, it was hipsters who rode[ __] fixy bikes

27:45 and dressed like lumberjacks while listening to Mumford and Sons.

27:48 Okay, it is a constant cycle.

27:50 It never ends.

27:50 And to be honest, I don't know if making fun of like actual performative men,

27:54 I don't know if that's going to make them better people either, which sucks.

27:57 I think if they're genuinely like being performative

27:59 and then they get called out on it, I think they're just going to drop the act

28:02 and become even bigger[ __] And like, is that better?

28:04 I don't I don't know if it is.

28:05 Do you want guys reading[ __] Jordan Peterson books in public instead?

28:09 No, of course not.

28:09 if they're skimming through like some feminist literature,

28:12 maybe they'll catch a stray at least,

28:14 you know, shred of knowledge, you know, who knows?

28:16 I just really hope that this trend isn't

28:18 giving people the impression that being progressive and reading

28:21 feminist literature is a bad thing and that you

28:23 deserve to be made fun of for doing so.

28:25 Sadly, it's like already making men like proud of not reading books.

28:30 Like this video I found of a guy bragging about being an anti-performative man.

28:34 He has got videos of him lifting weights, you know,

28:36 and watching sports, pictures of him playing video games,

28:40 which when you think about it is very funny because

28:42 he's like saying all this, he's not a performative man,

28:44 but like he's kind of just performing for a different group of people,

28:47 which kind of brings me to the point I'm

28:49 I think I'm trying to make in this video.

28:50 Like I said in the beginning, it's a very odd time to be a guy.

28:53 So, I mean, it's kind of a weird time to be a person in general.

28:56 But for centuries, humans have performed for one another to a certain degree.

29:00 It's literally what we do.

29:01 We dress a certain way to let people know what we're all about.

29:03 We talk different ways with different friend groups and people often exaggerate

29:07 things about themselves to seem a little more attractive to people, right?

29:10 Even in the animal kingdom, this exists, dude.

29:12 Peacocks, chill, bro.

29:13 Those are the most performative creatures in the world, dude.

29:16 Like, bro, we get it.

29:16 To be fair, I would be extra as hell, too, if my name was peacock.

29:20 Dude, that sucks.

29:22 That's like being named poop butt.

29:23 But with the rise of social media and the fact

29:25 that everybody has a topofthe-line video camera in their pocket 24/7,

29:30 we now have to subconsciously perform for everybody all the time,

29:33 even when we're not using our phone.

29:35 People put specific things for their profile picture in their bio.

29:38 Like, you're putting on this persona that you want to show others.

29:42 It's just all a performance all the time to every single person in the world

29:45 forever cuz you don't know when you'll end up as the subject or if you're lucky,

29:48 the background character of someone's[ __] TikTok.

29:50 And this happened to me, dude.

29:52 I went to a Blue Jays game last summer and I ended up in the background

29:54 of these[ __] kids selfies and then one

29:56 of those kids' sister posted a[ __] Tik Tok about it.

29:59 Look at that.

30:00 I look like[ __] Now when I'm out and about, I got to do this all the time.

30:03 I'm just In all seriousness, I think to live is to perform.

30:07 And you kind of have to accept that everyone

30:08 in your life is performing to a certain extent.

30:11 So, it's important to have like genuine conversations with the people

30:14 in your life to see what they're actually all about.

30:16 I feel like I use this analogy a lot, but it's it's kind of like the philosopher

30:19 stone or the sorcerer stone to the Americans,

30:22 like instead of trying to use a false interest in feminism to attract women.

30:25 If you just genuinely like read feminist literature

30:29 and actually learned like the basic ethical principles of feminism,

30:33 I feel like in turn, you will just naturally become a better,

30:36 more well-rounded human being,

30:38 which in turn will make you more attractive to women,

30:40 which is what you want in the first place, dude.

30:42 So, everybody wins, dude.

30:44 Ladies, you got to start quizzing these dudes.

30:45 Oh, you're a feminist.

30:47 Name five songs.

30:48 In conclusion, if you are a young man watching this video, dress how you want,

30:52 listen to what you want, drink what you want, but make sure it is what you want.

30:56 Don't try to change who you are to attract people

30:58 because it is not going to work in the long run.

31:01 Okay?

31:01 And that is coming from a happily married man.

31:03 Okay?

31:03 I know what I'm talking about.

31:04 These other[ __] dudes who are like, "I'm an alpha male.

31:07 This is how men are.

31:08 They're all single, dude.

31:09 They're they're alone.

31:10 They're lonely." I know what I'm talking about.

31:12 And also, I will say this, you can call me performative all you want.

31:15 Reading books is good.

31:17 Okay, when you're done watching this video, don't click off.

31:19 When you're done watching this video, go read some.

31:21 Okay, I will say the block is a little hot right now for us fellas.

31:24 So, if you do want to read feminist literature,

31:26 which I think you should, don't do it in public right now.

31:28 Okay, it's not going to bode well for you.

31:30 Here's what you do.

31:31 Okay, you go out middle of the night and you perch on the ledge of a skyscraper

31:35 in the rain like Batman and you alone secretly

31:39 you can finally read your copy of the bell jar.

31:41 And if people still somehow make fun of you

31:43 for that, just know people are only hating cut.

31:47 Hello again.

31:47 For the last time, I was going to end the video here,

31:50 but I feel like I missed out on some points that I wanted to address.

31:52 I touched on everybody wait.

31:56 No, I didn't.

31:56 I touched on everybody being quote unquote

31:58 performative all the time because of social media.

32:00 But I feel like I didn't talk enough about how

32:02 people are using the word performative in this particular sense.

32:05 I just want to drive the point home

32:06 that seeing a man dress or behave in a feminine

32:10 way and automatically labeling him as performative is really

32:13 just a creative like roundabout way to perpetuate patriarchal ideologies.

32:18 Because what you're essentially saying is men should only

32:20 look one particular way and that is big and tough and manly.

32:26 while women are the ones that should be

32:27 behaving in this more feminine way when in reality

32:30 people should be free to look and behave any

32:32 way they want to regardless of societal gender norms.

32:35 You know, like I swear this performative

32:36 male trend feels like a[ __] anti-woke scop

32:40 that was created so young people can like

32:42 covertly engage in like 1950s sexism, you know?

32:45 Like it hearkens back to like the '9s

32:47 and the early 2000s when people were using the term metrosexual.

32:50 You remember that[ __] Like if a guy

32:51 just brushed his teeth and got regular haircuts,

32:54 people were like, "What the[ __] bro?

32:55 Go Mr.

32:56 Metroexual over here, dude." But again,

32:58 I think making jokes about performative men is fine,

33:01 you know, cuz I[ __] just did that for a half hour.

33:03 But to be honest, I really don't know if any of these guys I

33:05 talked about in this video are actually

33:08 performative because I don't personally know them.

33:10 Just like how those people on the internet

33:11 were labeling me as performative, right?

33:13 They don't personally know me either.

33:15 So, I'm no better than the people I was complaining about if

33:17 I'm over here labeling all these dudes as performative as well, right?

33:20 So, with that, I would like to revoke all

33:23 my performative stamps that I gave out during this video.

33:25 And I would like to replace all of them with a cornball stamp, okay?

33:29 Because I can say with full confidence that all

33:31 those videos I watched were corny as[ __] okay?

33:34 Moral of the video, someone pretending to be someone

33:36 they're not in order to like get laid, that's gross.

33:39 No matter what, that's disgusting.

33:41 But it's especially gross if the person they are pretending to be

33:44 is a feminist because that adds a whole other layer to it.

33:47 You know, feminism is the advocation of gender equality.

33:49 So if you're pretending to think of women

33:51 as your equal in order to have sex with them,

33:54 then therefore that means you like automatically think less of them,

33:57 which is kind of[ __] crazy.

33:58 So if someone is doing that, make fun of them like crazy.

34:00 They absolutely deserve it.

34:01 I don't know if someone is just[ __] reading a book,

34:03 drinking a little green drink, and carrying a tote bag.

34:06 All the power to it, man.

34:07 Go nuts.

34:07 But my mission at the beginning of the video was to see if

34:09 there's an actual definitive way to tell if a man is being performative.

34:13 Like, how can you really like see 100% for certain that a man is performative?

34:18 And I think if you really want to see a performative male,

34:20 you should come see me perform at one of my shows.

34:22 I am literally a man performing all over Canada in November and December.

34:25 These are all the cities.

34:26 And guys, tickets are still available to my special taping in Toronto.

34:30 It's going to be awesome.

34:31 Okay, thank you so much for watching.

34:32 I hope you guys enjoyed it.

34:34 If you did, please press the like button, okay?

34:36 Because believe it or not,

34:36 one like equals one mustache hair I will pluck from my face.

34:40 Yeah, leave a comment.

34:40 Let me know what you think about all this[ __] Um,

34:43 I feel like this is one of those videos that people

34:45 will be much more knowledgeable than than I am about this.

34:48 And I'm excited to read the comment.

34:49 All right, that's it.

34:49 I would stick around, but unfortunately I have some diarrheaing I got to do.

34:53 See you.